“My Walden” – “Quiet Desperation…”

Today I explore one of the most famous quotes by Thoreau, one that never fails to hit me with its validity and deep truth. I write this post during the rising Holiday buzz in the United States, a time in which I experience more stress, more worry, and more exhaustion from those around me; an intense chaotic rush and push. What always strikes my curiosity is the proportion of people who DO because they “HAVE TO”,  which makes me ponder why we have chosen to create such intensity under the guise of “celebration and love”???

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“Peace begins with a smile.” ~Mother Teresa

While I am not immune to enjoying presents, or the joy of watching other people receive gifts, I am more deeply touched by sharing time with others, by making sincere connection in the present moment. Like Thoreau, I grow more and more quiet as I come home to the pure joy, love, grace and gentle beingness which resides within. I experience immense pleasure in watching a sunrise, observing others in playful connection, witnessing the pure presence of a dog who is not burdened with yesterday or worried about tomorrow. I love taking a long deep slow breath to grind chaos down, to bring the moment into full view with soft openness. I did this the other day in a very busy large store. I watched everyone zoom here and there, standing in lines with their phones in hand, plopping things into their carts, all while maintaining an isolation that kept them from making eye contact with anyone else. In my bubble of quietness I felt the energy of those who passed me, as I inhaled and exhaled I wished all a quiet slowing down, a moment to be, an acceptance of the grace which always is…

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“Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked, in which you can walk with love and reverence.” ~Henry David Thoreau

We are taught to go after our goals, tackle the “to do” list, jump through the hoops of success defined by societal standards. We measure ourselves against our neighbor, colleagues, leaders and government. Judging not only others, but most cruelly ourselves. As I expand into the infinite peace, love, and joy which is ever present, I find myself more and more quiet, detaching from outside stuff, letting go of busy doing-ness, questioning with honesty “why” I am choosing to do something.

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“Every breath we take, every step we make, can be filled with peace, joy and serenity.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

Today, I am going to leave you with the wisdom from Thoreau and Einstein, both of whom could see what was.

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.” ~ Thoreau

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” ~ Albert Einstein

“A stereotyped but unconscious despairs is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for that comes after work.” ~ Thoreau

“Logic will get you from A to Z; imagination will get you everywhere.” ~ Albert Einstein

“It is never too late to give up our prejudices. No way of thinking or doing, however ancient, can be trusted without proof. What everybody echoes or in silence passes by as true today may turn out to be falsehood to-morrow, mere smoke of opinion…” ~ Thoreau

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ~ Albert Einstein

(I wish to thank the person who gifted my river walk yesterday with these fun ornaments.)

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“My Walden” – As we see ourselves, so we are…

“As we see ourselves, so we are…”  The power we truly have to be happy, peaceful, loving, and so much more, begins with our own inner thoughts.  Again, this is not a new concept or teaching, it goes back throughout time, shared in many different languages and cultures.

Here is Thoreau’s wisdom from over a hundred and seventy years ago (written in Walden) –

“It is hard to have a Southern overseer; it is worse to have a Northern one; but worst of all when you are the slave-driver of yourself.”

“Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion. What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate.”

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“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” ~Buddha

I simply ask you, “Do you say things to yourself that you would never say to a friend?” I must ask you, why? To learn from what we consider to be mistakes is one thing, to torment and criticize the self on a daily basis is another.

As Thoreau points out, we are the ones to choose how we step forth. If you hate your job and have been unhappy for years, why would you not look for something else? If your relationship has been bitter and struggling for years, why would you not take action to create change. Are you waiting for the fairy godmother, a twist of fate,  or someone else to make it better???

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“The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large.” ~ Confucius

When I purview my life, the common denominator that is in every scene is ME. Thus, my life is a reflection of my choices and way of being with the world around me. I cannot blame another for what is. It does me no good to sit in the pit of victim. Nor does it serve to wait for the stars to align in hopes that all will change.

Three words I often hear and have begun to investigate are – Hope, But, and Should. They are crippling, limiting words, mere excuses to not change. “Hope” is a hollow word, it paralyzes unless there is action taken. “I hope my boss notices my hard work…, I hope that I meet someone who will love me…, I hope that someday I can….” It screams of something that might become, a mere whisper that limits full expression. “But” is an excuse and word used to stay stuck. “I would love to do that, but…. I would quit my job, but…” What are you afraid of, why tell yourself one thing, only to immediately contradict. “Should”, king of all words that keep us on a treadmill of mediocrity. “I should clean the house…, I should go to the party…, I should stay at this job…” Really? I agree with Tony Robbins, “Shoulding all over yourself,” serves no one, especially you. Would a flower say, “I hope I bloom today.., I should bloom today, but…” The words you say to yourself and others have impact. Notice how often you say hope, but, and should. Then become aware of how you use them, what do they say to you and others.

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“A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

There is also the perspective of how you choose to feel, maybe you do not enjoy your work colleague, what would happen if you decided to always treat them with kindness and take nothing they say personal? Traffic is backed up, you grow agitated – how does that chosen feeling serve you? In all moments, you are at choice with HOW YOU FEEL. You are the one who decides to REACT. No one is making you feel anything.

Thoreau’s words reverberate – “What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate.” Self criticism and judgment only harm. You would never speak to a friend that way, say such things to your lover, child, or stranger on the street. Why do you use such verbose unkind words to the self? Looking in the mirror the dialogue rambles. Is it positive, loving comments? When something doesn’t work out the way you thought it should, what do you say to yourself?

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“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.” ~Wayne Dyer

In my life, I find that every day gives me opportunities to take things that happen negatively or I can look at how they might be happening to teach me something; gracing me with the awareness that I decide how I feel in any given moment.  I look back to the day I was let go from my job two years ago, a mixture of emotions flooded my being. I knew I was at choice to let fear and self-criticism rule, or I could choose to see how it all might be helping me to step in the direction my heart and soul beckoned. In reflection it has been completely the latter. It helped me to break the cycle of working a dead end job, spurred me to find the courage to start my business and to take action daily towards doing what I love. In hindsight it has been one of the best things to happen to me. It spurred me to be here with you today, sharing my passion to write and connect with others.

Today I share with you an Invitation versus a pondering –

For the next week focus on sharing positive kind supportive things to yourself. If you are courageous enough, say positive things about yourself, to yourself in the mirror. Do it with sincerity and presence.

When you hear yourself saying negative “opinions” about yourself, STOP! Take a deep long slow breath and CHANGE the internal dialogue to something positive. Be patient, you have been berating yourself for years – you are working to build a new muscle.

If you are interested to learn more about how negative self-talk impacts your life check out some of these videos:

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“My Walden” – Are we truly more advanced??

Is there anyone out there who can relate to the words written about life in 1845-1847 by Henry David Thoreau?

“Most men, even in this comparatively free country, through mere ignorance and mistake, are so occupied with the factitious cares and superfluously coarse labors of life that its finer fruits cannot be plucked by them.”

“He has no time to be anything but a machine.”

“…, trying to get into business and trying to get out of debt, a very ancient slough…”

“…; making yourselves sick, that you may lay up something against a sick day, something to be tucked away in an old chest, or in a stocking behind the plastering, or, more safely, in the brick bank; no matter where, no matter how much or how little.”

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“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.” ~Earl Nightingale

Today I watch and observe the same. People wake up sleep deprived to an alarm that insists they step back on the treadmill. They prepare themselves for a day at work, commuting idling behind stop light after stoplight. Hurry to work, spend more time there than with your family, commute back home to share what little energy and presence you have left. Hit repeat the next morning… Living for the weekends and days off.

Now this would not sadden me, if I saw happy people. If I experienced people excited to “go to work”, witnessing joy and passion. In the thirty seven years I have been working across the grand diversity of thirty different jobs, it has been my experience that happiness is not what greets me when I enter the door to my workplace. The negativity vibrates off the walls like a slap in the face. My colleagues count the hours until the day is done, they groan about the meetings and lament the shortcomings of those in charge.

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“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” ~ Steve Jobs

Humans are not robots. We are fueled by emotions, desires, passions, and the ultimate wish to love and be loved; celebrating in the interconnectedness of friends, family, community.  In our world presently not only do most people robotically go through their day, they sit behind a machine that is completely detached and void of fulfilling any of their internal needs.  This rectangular box dictates the day’s progression. It has become a physical extension of our body and sadly how we stay connected to others versus sharing time in person.

Thoreau stated clearly, “He has no time to be anything but a machine.” I wonder what he would say now about all of us? Yikes! If he found himself shaking his head one hundred and seventy three years ago, I fear his whole being would go into shock today.

What might change if we started to show up differently? I might not enjoy my present employment, however, the day will be more fulfilling if I shift my attitude and become aware of how I can serve and be positively present with those around me. I do experience that positive behavior can be as contagious as negative.

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“Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.” ~Aristotle

Today’s Exploration –

Are you happy with your life?

Do you go through the motions of your day like a machine?

What “finer fruits” are you missing out on in your daily life, that you can choose to start noticing?

If you are not happy, what are some small steps today that you can choose to shift things?

What if every time you found yourself complaining, you caught yourself and changed it to a positive thought?

In closing, I wish to invite you to “try out” how just changing your mindset can hugely impact your experiences and thus your life. YOU choose how you feel, NO ONE makes you feel anything.

“My Walden” – Choosing Our Path…

The first blog entry for “My Walden” came directly from the first page of Thoreau’s reflections, midway into his second paragraph in the first chapter “Economy”. This second post which I hope you will truly take the time to explore, comes from paragraph three and four, ahhh… the incredible teachings, that like history we perpetuate and hit repeat.

Thoreau’s words –

“I have travelled a good deal in Concord; and everywhere, in shops, and offices, and fields, the inhabitants have appeared to me to be doing penance in a thousand remarkable ways.”

“I see young men, my townsmen, whose misfortune it is to have inherited farms, houses, barns, cattle, and farming tools; for these are more easily acquired than got rid of. Better if they had been born in the open pasture and suckled by a wolf, that they might have seen with clearer eyes what field they were called to labor in.”

“Why should they begin digging their graves as soon as they are born?”

“But men labor under mistake. The better part of the man is soon plowed into the soil for compost. …laying up treasures which moth and rust will corrupt and thieves break through and steal. It is a fool’s life, as they will find when they get to the end of it, if not before.”

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“Of all possessions a friend is the most precious.” ~Herodotus

As I sit here quietly on the deck of “My Walden”, I am blessed to observe the playful shenanigans of two squirrels, a floating duck on a glass still pond and the chatting walkers’ across the way who absorb a wee bit of nature while they mosey.  The sun plays peek a boo through the clouds and the buzz of distant traffic reminds me that a very chaotic world exists beyond my sanctuary.

In the times of Thoreau and today, to be a land owner is celebrated; to “own” your home, property, a piece of the planet. I used to “own” a small morsel of land that cradled a little home. Of course I did not “own” it, the bank did and when the crash of 2008-2009 blazed through, I lost it.

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“Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.” ~Democritus

At times I miss that place, however I am clear, it is not so much the home or the land I miss, it is the memories created there. The time shared with others, the experiences and rituals established with neighbors. “Losing it all” has given a perspective from which to reflect and explore. Is home ownership all that it is marketed to be? Hmmm.., I am not so sure, for one can easily become slave to the home, its upkeep and maintenance, the time and separation it creates from others. As Thoreau so wisely stated, is your home a place of celebration or penance? When you are lying on your death bed, will it be the home you remember and cherish, or will it be the times shared with others inside those walls that comfort you during your last breaths?

I am most certainly not against home/land ownership, I do however wish to question how your time is spent within the walls of such ownership. Does it line up with your passions, your dreams, your desires? Does it gift you with freedom to play, to connect, to be with those you love, doing what you love? Or does it begin the downslide to the digging of your grave? Is it a noose or wings?

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“Unnecessary possessions are unnecessary burdens. If you have them, you have to take care of them! There is great freedom in simplicity of living. It is those who have enough but not too much who are the happiest.” ~Peace Pilgrim

We supposedly live in the “Land of the Free”, yet all around me I observe like Thoreau a people doing penance. Living life for the tomorrows which never come. Waiting until…!! Then they find themselves alone, broke, and lying in a bed of regret. I continue to be grateful for the wisdom I gleaned from the patients I cared for in a nursing home during my early twenties. The stories they shared highlighted for me what was most important – the connection with others and living a life filled with passion and faith. There is value in learning from what resides in our rearview mirror, however, be careful that your history does not become your limiting belief/story. Celebrating our present moments with complete awareness guides us into our tomorrows full of inspired dreams.

For me, this is an eloquent dance. Like standing on the peak of a mountain you have climbed. You can see the trail you journeyed, as you stand celebrating the panoramic view before you. Looking out you can see all the possibilities, which way shall you go, what path will lead you to what comes next, what beckons you…

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“Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible. No one can take them. You, and you alone, can give them. You will receive abundance for your giving.” ~W. Clement Stone

Today’s Pondering – Assess your present reality

Are you living a life full of passion, joy, love, and co-creating?

Are you burdened by the things you own, are they the ball and chain that keeps you stuck?

Are you waiting for tomorrow, or “when I have…” I will do this and go for that?

In closing I can say with certainty that we all have a few things in common – we were born, we will die, we all have 24 hours each day and our personal quality of life is directly tied to the choices we make in our present moments. 

“My Walden” – JOY (Just Own You)

Today is a wonderful day to start fresh upon this page. To begin a new journey of sharing and exploring. It is Thanksgiving Day in the United States, a holiday I have always struggled with. Even as a young person, I thought it strange we celebrated a day hallmarking gratitude for the Native American helping the white settler to survive, only to then massacre and destroy their way of life. Hmmm…, just one of those historical things I have pondered.

Over the years as I have asked people why do we teach history, I always get the rote reply, “We teach history, so we will not repeat our mistakes.”.  I actually have to laugh at this response, for look around, read the paper (does anyone do this anymore?) or watch the news (I must admit, I do not and have not watched the news for at least 20 years) – we repeat history ALL the time. Year after year, century after century, civilization after civilization. This new journey on my blog is going to be a reflective exploration of “Walden” by Henry David Thoreau, an autobiographical story that poignantly exposes the repetition of history and the games we play.

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“I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual.” ~Henry David Thoreau

So let’s start at the very beginning – “A very good place to start…” as Julie Andrews so graciously shares in her song “Do, Re, Me…” from “Sound of Music” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jp0opnxQ4rY). In the opening chapter, “Economy” Thoreau introduces himself and the book. He states, “In most books, the I, or first person, is omitted; in this it will be retained; that, in respect to egotism, is the main difference. We commonly do not remember that it is, after all, always the fist person that is speaking. I should not talk so much about myself if there were anybody else whom I knew as well. Unfortunately, I am confined to this theme by the narrowness of my experience.”

Why do I choose such a simplistic, “unimportant” point to begin this narrative journey? My why, zeroes in on the serious sincere truth that the only person we can truly “talk about” is the “I”.  We do not tread in any other persons moccasins, so why do we pretend to know, make assumptions, waste time in gossip and hyperbole about anyone? Everything around us barrages us from a perspective that we “KNOW” another, that our way is better, that there is a “right or wrong” way to live. It is my experience that we pretend to know and understand another culture and people without ever going there, without ever being able to embody their way of life.  So.., think about the beautiful pure simplicity of this statement from Thoreau – “I should not talk so much about myself if there were anybody else home I knew as well.”

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“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.” ~Albert Einstein

What would the world be like if we stayed true to this? If we spoke and lived from the “I”? Never assuming or putting onto another our beliefs, expectations, or attachments? What might unfold if we stopped judging without knowing? If we stopped assuming and pretending we know without asking?

This blog is about ME, about my reflective exploration of the world through my eyes. I cannot begin to imagine, nor understand your world, for I do not journey within your beating heart, warm breath, or synopsizing brain. I can only inquire, open the door to learning and hearing about another’s experience and perspective. I know in my heart and soul that all I wish for in this glorious world is for each being to find the immense joy, peace, and love that resides within. How? Well that is an individual odyssey.

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“I know that I am intelligent, because I know that I know nothing.” ~Socrates

I shall conclude today’s little pondering with a challenge for you, one that I give myself over and over and over again, for it bashes up against our human domesticated nature, live today from the “I”.

  • Communicate with others from your “I” place. (Example – “I feel sad when there is no time to be together. I hear that you do not wish to go with me, when you say you are busy. Etc…) This is a journey in owning your “feelings” without blame and victimhood. 
  • Listen from your “I” place, free of judgment, expectation, attachment, or assumption. This will take awareness and practice.
  • If you do not understand something, brave the opportunity to inquire, to ask, to desire to see from another perspective.
  • As you observe outside of yourself, can you step away from your place of judgment to view and experience without attachment?

Have fun with this, it just might change your experience of yourself and others. I would love to hear how your experience with “I” goes. 

It is the little things….

As a Transformational Coach and Facilitator I am always struck by how many people want overnight change without the daily work. Over a lifetime we settle into habits and patterns, often reactionary behaviors to the world that “domesticates” and trains us to be this or that according to the doctrines of our family, government, society, etc…

Thirty years ago when I decided that I did not like the body of the woman in the mirror, I made a powerful decision to change it. I knew that losing forty-five pounds or more was not going to happen overnight. I was keenly aware that I would have to make conscious choices everyday to support my goal to be healthy, vibrant, active and physically fit. I started a food journal, clipping images that inspired me to keep going as I wrote down what I ingested everyday. I ordered my weights and books to learn how to shape the figure I wanted for myself. (Below image taken a couple months ago)

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“It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen.” ~John Wooden

Six days of every week I stood before the mirror determined to create change. I started out with tiny 2 pound weights and jogging in intervals to build up my stamina. I got rid of all the junk food in my home, filling my cupboards and refrigerator with healthy options. As the weeks went by I witnessed the transformation. I did all of this in the home of my great grandma who I was taking care of during the last months of her life. She would watch me, shaking her head at my craziness, for women were not “supposed” to do that, especially in work out clothes that exposed so much skin. I did not care what anyone thought, I knew what I wanted and everyday I was at choice to make it happen.

I share this story because “change” happens day by day, moment by moment – it arises and becomes through the small and large choices we make daily. I have gotten up in the wee hours of the morning to journal for over twenty-five years. When my children were young I would find myself with cup of tea and pen in hand at three or four in the morning. People think I am nuts, yet it is this choice and so many other daily practices that keep me aligned with my life vision, healthy body, mind and spirit.

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Do the BIG decisions impact life, absolutely! However, I find most people underestimate the immense power of the daily little choices that change us on a cellular level. If you want to transform your life, it often begins with small action steps – working out 3-5 days of the week, making healthy food choices, meditating, journaling, reading, learning and taking action every day.

A healthy muscular body does not become overnight, so why do people believe that negative patterns will quickly change without daily work and attention? Think about someone you admire and respect, what are their daily practices? All of the mentors, teachers and role models I look up to “practice what they preach”, they daily take action towards embodying what they believe is possible to live a dynamic happy fulfilled life. I know from my own life experience that little daily choices create a foundation from which all things become.

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“Character, in great and little things, means carrying through what you feel able to do.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Don’t take my word for it, begin tomorrow with one small change that you do everyday for thirty days. At the end of the thirty days reflect, how do you feel, what changes happened, did it positively effect your life??? I know for me the “little things” I choose to do daily create the ripple effect in my life, expanding it evermore into my glorious tomorrows…

She Continues to Inspire Me!!

Fifty-three years ago an amazing woman gave up life as she knew it, to welcome me into the world.  I came at a time in her life when she was on the edge of blossoming into her own womanhood; at the start of figuring out who she was, what she wanted to do with her life, and where she might want to adventure to. My conception interrupted any solo dreams she may have had, turned it down a different road, changed her life forever. It would take me years to fully understand the sacrifice she made at that time. Now, as a mother of two amazing young people, I am awed and humbled by her courage, love, and pure grace.

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“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” ~Abraham Lincoln

I continue to be inspired by her, blessed to have her in my life, to laugh, cry, and share heartfelt moments. As I listen to my own daughter sing at the top of her lungs while I type, I smile at all the years my mom listened to me. Patiently and lovingly she let me be me, especially in my own room where I cranked up the volume on my record player to full max.

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“When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” ~Sophia Loren

Our journey has not always been cozy and full of loving snuggles. On the contrary actually, there were years that we did not get along at all. As the eldest of four (only child til I was 9, then…), living in the middle of no where, with no close neighbors, I became her right hand “person”.  As I look back through the looking glass I smile at the woman I see, for she role modeled such strength, compassion, and love in ways beyond my understanding at the time. When I determinedly decided I wanted to be an exchange student in High School, she stood behind me ALL the way, she stood up against the naysayers with me, selfishly doing whatever it took to help me make it happen. When applying to the college I wanted to go to, she was the one to sit at the typewriter and type out the essays I had written. She stood by my side when others said, “It’s too expensive”, “You should go somewhere in state..”.

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“I got to grow up with a mother who taught me to believe in me.” ~Antonio Villaraigosa

 

I watched this incredible woman raise three children on her own after my parents divorced. She put them first, sacrificing always, so they could have and do what they wanted. I marveled at how she could keep it all together. Support them with unconditional love and encourage every dream they expressed. I loved how she journeyed this path authentically and humbly – never giving up, no matter how hard it became.

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“My mother is a walking miracle.” ~Leonardo DiCaprio

Then at sixty she ignited a dream tucked beneath years of raising children, to work for Colonial Williamsburg. At an age and time when most people just “accept” life as it is, she rallied courage, determination, faith, and self-love. She went for it and DID IT!! Amazingly ten plus years laters, she is still there, greeting and welcoming people into the historical experience of Colonial Williamsburg. This powerful role modeling that dreams can come true no matter your age or place in life, continues to inspire and awe me.

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“Mama was my greatest teacher, a teacher of compassion, love and fearlessness. If love is sweet as a flower, then my mother is that sweet flower of love.” ~Stevie Wonder

Through all the years, through all the challenges, she has always been there for me, letting me navigate my path without judgment. Being there to encourage and support me when I fall down. Loving me and all my crazy wild dreams. My two children love sharing time with their grandma, for she gets them, she loves them for exactly who they are..!! I wish for every child such love. My mom has become one of my dearest friends, a woman who inspires me every day, who is my nonjudgmental safe place to be me.

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“The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom.” ~Henry Ward Beecher

Mom, there truly are no words to say thank, you are a divine gift in my life. I am grateful for the hard times between us, for they have enriched and deepened our relationship. It is easy to love when all is smooth and effortless, it is the bumps, the challenges, the struggles which really create a relationship that can withstand the storms. I am so proud to be your daughter. I kneel in humble gratitude for all that you have sacrificed and given to raise me into the woman I am today.

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“My mother’s wonderful. To me she’s perfection.” ~Michael Jackson

Happy Mother’s Day Mom!! May we have years and years and years to play, laugh, cry, dance, explore and adventure together. In sincere love, your wild at heart daughter <3. I close with this song for you and all mothers (click the word below).

Mama…

The Philosopher’s Rearview Mirror Wisdom!!

As I enjoy the peace and tranquility of my “Walden Pond”, I reflect upon the wisdom of the great philosophers and thinkers who walked this earth before me. Why are we so quick to disregard, reject and forget their teachings?

Today I wish to begin the journey with you where together we choose to remember and hopefully reawaken to their teachings. In so doing, it is my hope that we may make a conscious choice to leave the world better for the next generation or as the Native Americans wisely encouraged, the next seven generations.

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“In our every deliberation, we must consider the impact of our decisions on the next seven generations.” ~Iroquois maxim

As I read “Walden” again by Henry David Thoreau, I am struck by his plea for us to see our world truthfully. To elect stepping off the hamster wheel of mediocrity to embrace a life of connection and awareness. A line of his that has haunted me for years states – “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.”

Ugh.., I hear this reverberate everyday as I listen and observe the world around me. I take in conversations like,

“How are you today?”

“Oh, I am okay?”

“Just okay?”

“Yes, nothing bad has happened so far, so I guess it is all good.”

This is a conversation I listened to yesterday morning – seriously, that is how one embarks on the new day. A day that will never come again. Why? Why would you choose this?

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“Wonder is the feeling of the philosopher, and philosophy begins in wonder.” ~Plato

Thoreau continues to discuss the psyche of the human – “Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion. What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate.”

Are we unable to connect the dots of understanding that how we think directly impacts how we feel and what we create for ourselves in our lives? Can we not view the direct correlation between our happiness and how we choose to think, act and be engaged with our life?

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“Be as you wish to seem.” ~Socrates

I asked a colleague of mine the other day, “What do you wish to experience, see and or do in your life”? This question came after listening to a group of them complain about “doing another day at work”, all of them counting the hours until the day was done. His response to me, “I don’t know, I haven’t thought in years about what I would like to do or dream to create and experience.”

This is the world I am handing down to my children. This is the thinking I often experience around me as I interact with others. It saddens me very deeply, for many people choose to make Thoreau’s words correct – they live a life of “quiet desperation”, going through the motions with no passion or joy. Living a vicarious life through the actors on the television, phone or computer screen.

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“My best friend is the man who in wishing me well wishes it for my sake.” ~Aristotle

Perhaps it is time to recall the wisdom written and spoken by those before us. Maybe it is time to listen with our hearts, souls and mind, making new decisions that will have a ripple effect upon those who are inheriting our actions and choices.

Do you live a life of “quiet desperation’? Do you think of yourself poorly, criticizing and judging? I am curious, why would you choose this?

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“Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.” ~Democritus

Until next time, may you “be the change you wish to see in the world…”!!

The Gift That Keeps On Giving…

Hello amazing readers!! I come to you on a glorious sunny Spring like Saturday in Boise, Idaho. I love this time of year, for it is full of the potential blossoming of life and vitality. As I glance out the window with my fingers sliding across the keyboard I am bouncing inside, dancing to the absolute stunning, joyful grace of life, it’s never ending vitality and opportunity for growth.

It mirrors to me all the expansion and glee I have felt lately within my physical, emotional and spiritual being. As you know, I enjoyed my favorite 11 day Detox in January and have since maintained a very clean mostly Raw Food lifestyle. I am just flabbergasted with the miraculous ability of the body to rise, heal, and awaken to more!

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“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique.” ~Martha Graham

A gift I choose everyday to bestow upon myself, those I love, and the world at large is to take care of me, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Think about this for a moment. If I take loving care of myself in all ways, I give my children, family, and friends the gift of not having to take care of me. As I expand my knowledge and wisdom in health and transformational coaching I expand my gift out to others who seek to change their own life. They then start the ripple effect in their lives to grace their family and friends with being healthy, happy, and vibrantly alive. It is the Gift That Keeps On Giving!!

In 2007 I started this journey to coach and teach, working one on one with people, while teaching “Raw Food” and “Right Relationship with Food” classes. My business name at that time was “Rippling Intentions” – a name that embodies my dreams and hopes. The world, especially Boise, Idaho, was not ready to move in this direction. Most people still did not question or take action with regard to their personal health and well being, they preferred to turn to the Medical World for guidance and a quick fix. By the way, did you know that most doctors get little to no nutritional teaching? It’s a fact! Gratefully a fact that is getting attention lately and shall hopefully be changing.

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“What is called genius is the abundance of life and health.” ~Henry David Thoreau

Today I am absolutely ecstatic to hear and see all of this changing!! I have been waiting for so long (30 years) for the medical world to begin to share the truth about the interconnection of our body, mind, and spirit; how it can heal if we truly take care of it. Thankfully there have been grand pioneers out there trying to wake us up along the way – Ann Wigmore, Dr. Andrew Weil, Dr. Gabriel Cousens, Dr. Bernard Jensen, etc… In the last month and a half I have joyfully celebrated and enjoyed three docu-series – “Broken Brain” (https://brokenbrain.com), created by Dr Mark Hyman, “Autoimmune Secrets” (https://autoimmunesecrets.com/), created by Jonathan Otto interviewing a team of experts, and “iThrive” (https://go.ithriveseries.com/), created by Jon McMahon who personally takes you on a journey with experts to reverse Diabetes. I truly wish every person would take the time to gift themselves and those they love by watching these series (listen to them in the car, while making dinner, taking a walk – I did not sit and watch them, I listened when I could.)

I am astounded at how many people will not take their personal health into their own hands. Why would you not want to give this gift to yourself, the ones you love, and the world at large? Why would you not want to lead the healthiest, happiest life ever? Why would you not question if you live in pain, discomfort, depression, diabetes, cancer, etc.., this is not your body’s natural state. What we eat and how we take care of our body literally kills us or makes us thrive – you are the one to make the choice of what goes into your body. I have never believed we have to “suffer” or “grow old” and at 53 I continue to believe this with even more passion!!

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“I believe that the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you.” ~Joyce Meyer

As you know, I worked in a nursing home in my early twenties, at that time I had already been on a path with “taking care” of my body, however my desire to know more and do more increased profoundly as I observed the dismal quality of life these people lived. My desire to be healthy and physically fit sky rocketed with intensity. I lost 45 lbs, and started keeping track of my food and exercise with great focus. Thirty two years later I am so grateful that I took action, for I am blessed to live a life that not only graces me with immense vibrancy, but also impacts everyone around me.

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“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

I pray that you will start to question, that you will take action, that starting today you will choose to OWN YOUR personal health, for it is the most precious gift you give to yourself and those you love. The NAKED TRUTH here is that YOU are the one to CHOOSE!! It is a Gift that you not only give yourself, but to all those who love you!

I’m BACK with Great Excitement!! Stronger and more vibrantly alive than ever!!

I apologize for skipping out on the last two months, sometimes life nudges you to step back, re-evaluate and rejuvenate your WHY and WHO YOU ARE (refer to earlier blog posts, for “Who” and “Why”). The 21 Day Transformational Detox was an immensely powerful experience for myself and those that shared the journey with me. I lost approximately 10 lbs., but more importantly I began the process of truly “detoxing” my body, mind and spirit. Today, I joyfully continue to detox in many ways,  healing even more profoundly; digging deeper into the awareness of my body’s incredible miraculous ability to be vibrantly alive!!

All that being said, I come back to the page with a greater intensity and less patience – to be completely authentically honest, I’m sick of the excuses I hear all around me. Seriously, let’s get real!! Your life will NOT CHANGE, unless you take action, end of story!! Your HEALTH, your EMOTIONAL well being, your SPIRITUAL and INTELLECTUAL expansion, peace, love, joy, and grace will not ARISE out of perpetuating your habits and patterns that keep you stuck.

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“Kites rise highest against the wind – not with it.” ~Winston Churchill

Oh, I get it! There are only 24 hours in the “day/night” – yep, that’s true for ALL of us. I understand that there is much “to do”! I know it is not easy! I hear all of it, over and over, and over, and over again. When are you going to say NO MORE? When are you going to say YES to YOU, your HEALTH, your JOY, your PASSIONS, your DREAMS, DESIRES, etc…???

Change comes when we take consistent action everyday. This does not have to be huge action, it is the little actions that build the massive change over time. Now, mind you a life altering event can happen in a second, changing your life forever, however, it has been my experience that the true power lies in how you step up each day in little consistent determined ways. A new muscle does not become sculpted and powerful overnight, it is a journey over time.

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“My interest in life comes from setting myself huge, apparently unachievable challenges and trying to rise above them.” ~Richard Branson

I am so tired of wandering around a world that has forgotten how to be joyfully passionate in living life! Seriously, I don’t understand. Why would anyone want to go through the motions of life? Why would anyone want to be sick and unhealthy? Why would anyone “not want” to experience life to the fullest? I’m confused and baffled by such decisions. I can personally say I LOVE LIFE!! It is a glorious dance full of vibrant gifts every day!!

Answer this question honestly – If you had the chance to go to dinner with someone passionately, vibrantly, joyfully alive OR someone “going through the motions of life” with an attitude that “life happens to them”, who would you choose? I know my answer, I choose the passionate being!

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“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” ~Oprah Winfrey

I chuckle, for what do people think will happen? That during the night the “fairy godmother” will arrive to change everything? That they can get healthier by doing the same thing that got them sick? That hitting snooze every morning will make the night longer so they do not have to wake up in the same old world that they created? You get the point.

I come back to this blog ready to be more blunt, personally truthful, raw and authentically naked, for I am seriously sick of the perpetuated mediocrity that exists through all the excuses. I am going to live large with passionate loving joy, taking action everyday towards a vibrantly full life – I sure hope you will join me. It is soooooo much FUN!!

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“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” ~Harriet Tubman

I am very excited to come back to the page with you. I am thrilled to write a new page three days of the week. I am joyfully here to celebrate the pure dynamic grace of life with you!

  • If you want the “same old thing”, then please do not waste your time reading my blog.
  • If you are already living a passionate dynamic life I hope you find relatable joy in my words.
  • If you are seeking to change and rise into your unique glorious self, I hope you will gift yourself with the time it takes to read this blog and recharge your battery to say YES to a passionate life!!
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“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.” ~Colin Powell

Until we connect on Friday (in my part of the world), A.C.T. (Always Choose Truth) to experience the wonders which reside all around you if you are willing to see.