The Metaphors that find us…

This last Sunday I gifted myself with a sweet simple “do” day, after I enjoyed  a very delectable brunch with a dear friend. For months I had watched and walked around the drip-drops of water or frozen ice rink on the front porch, each time thinking I would clean out the gutters, so that the water could flow where it was meant to go… Winter came, freezing the leaves, branches, and dirt, gracing me with an excuse not to get the ladder out. This week the sun kissed the earth again after a long grey period, thus the drip drops on the porch stoop began again in earnest. The time had come!!

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Key metaphors help determine what and how we perceive and how we think about our perceptions. ~M. H. Abrams

It was a glorious afternoon to do a little yard clean up, to clear out the clutter, relax through the body movement and just be; breathing deeply into the freedom to not do any work towards my expanding business. I gave myself permission to turn off the constant chatter and whirlwind of ideas, allowing myself to let everything soak in and be absorbed.

Aligning my ladder between the two parallel gutters I donned my yard gloves and climbed up to the overflowing edges filled with natural debris. Handful by handful I pulled the partially frozen gunk out of the burdened gutter and launched it into the awaiting garbage can. Each pile of organic material freed up space for the water and air to flow, it felt clear, open, and light. As I dissected the layered material and listened to my motivational recording I started to chuckle from within, for this sloppy, wet, limp, dark, semi-frozen sludge was an exact metaphor for all that I was clearing out of my body/mind/spirit. Ha…how absolutely perfect that I was finally cleaning the gutters and yard – why now? Because NOW I was ready!!

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“Metaphors have a way of holding the most truth in the least space.” ― Orson Scott Card

Since moving into this amazing home we are blessed to house sit, I found myself like a glob of silly putty, spreading out with a lethargic desire to just BE. Tired and exhausted from a life where I have perpetually tried to “fit in”, to be successful in other people’s businesses, rules, ethics, and philosophies, all while ignoring the inner nagging that there had to be more. The gift of this relaxed “being time” was way overdue for this single mom. I had not realized how desperately I needed to just breathe in the powerful gift of nature and allow myself to flow.

Since the New Year I had noticed a new vigor, an intense desire, and a willful power rising within me!! The time had come! With this determined sensation came a push to clear out debris, get rid of unnecessary stuff, and sort through material possessions I never touch or wear. Mind you while the intense urge is there, the action has not followed, for all energy has been focused on developing the business. Any of you reading this that have manifested a successful business on your own, understand that  the journey from “nothing” to “something” is laden heavily with layers and layers of negative self-talk and burning fear. Each day is a walk on the edge of the cliff, terrifying fear that you fall to your death, yet invigorated by each step as it expands into exhilarating discovery fueled by a passionate desire to keep going. A paradoxical adventure.

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“Tomas did not realize at the time that metaphors are dangerous. Metaphors are not to be trifled with. A single metaphor can give birth to love.” ― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being

As a child one of my favorite children’s stories was the “The Little Engine That Could” – I read it over and over and over again. Then as a parent I joyfully made sure it was in the library and often on the top of the read pile. “I think I can…” has always been an inner mantra – today it is one I recite over and over again in each glorious day. This story has been a powerful metaphor for me, climbing the mountain when I don’t feel like I have the strength to go on; focusing on the peak when my body, mind, and spirit shake with exhaustion.

Sunday’s metaphor was not as pretty or cute as the little engine. The grimy, smelly, rotting sludge that I pulled from the gutters was perfect, for it metaphorically represented years of layered “accepted” self-doubt, negative personal disbelief and dishonoring the gifts and purpose I had been given to share with others. Each handful was a clearing, a freeing of dark unwelcome debris – each slap in the garbage can enlightened my very being. Looking up at the carefree water that now flowed to the spout made me dance with joy, for like me it could now merrily meander along.

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“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” ― Oscar Wilde

I love how life can entertain us with metaphorical awareness if we are open to the hidden messages. Listening to our bodies, minds, and souls, will often lead us to do what we “need to do” to become more from within. Our very spirit wants us to expand and dance in full joy, love, and wonder of the infinite possibilities! We all have a unique gift and presence to share, sometimes it just takes us awhile to clear out the debris that blocks our path.

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As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives. ~Henry David Thoreau

Happy Valentine’s day everyone!!

I Can Dance….

I begin twenty-seventeen in the best possible way – dancing!! Dancing with those I love, dancing with love in my heart, dancing with passion guiding my feet, dancing to the music of life!!! This dynamic start is a great metaphor for how I intend to embrace this year of living my purpose each and every moment.

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“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching, Love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like there’s nobody listening, And live like it’s heaven on earth.” ― William W. Purkey

This holiday my kids and I were blessed to travel to Michigan, the state that raised me from a child to a young woman. Every five years my whole family comes together near my dad’s in a rented house to celebrate Christmas and if possible New Years. Some of these family members I had not seen since the last get together five years ago, very sad, but true. It was a coming together of parents, four siblings and their families, along with cousins, and friends – our craziest day found us enjoying the company of forty people, while our quietest day found us intimately enjoying the presence of eight people.

This was a challenging holiday for me, having lost my job in November I wondered how I might be received, questioned and viewed. Most of my family members are great concrete thinkers, successful in their corporate worlds, financially sound and competent in their arenas of profession. I however have always been one to choose the least traveled path, explore new professions, jump into the passing boat for the life experience, and live the moments presently without the concrete plan. Growing up I wished that I could be happy with the uniform boxes society deemed as the path to success. I prayed that I could be driven by money and possessions. All around me everyone was living this way, doing the do, checking off the boxes, taking the steps to the next promotion and filing away a retirement account for the future. No matter how hard I tried, I could not live this way (I did truly try and wished I could) and today I am very clear that it is not my path and never has been. I completely respect and honor those that are happy and thriving in that lifestyle, for to me it is all about the internal happiness, joy in connection with those we love, and living a life that brings you peace, contentment, and grace – being in line with what instills you with passion and zest for a life with purpose.

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“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.” ― Osho

This is neither good nor bad – just is… I dance to a different drum beat, I sing my own song, and I joyfully know I have a purpose that has been bonking me upside the head for a good thirty plus years. As you know from my previous blog entries I have known this truth for awhile now, however I have floundered on the clarity, along with trying to be patient for society to be ready for my offering.

When I look back into my childhood I knew when I was very young that there was something I was meant to do – a purpose I was meant to fill. So many times over the course of my life I have felt that I landed on a gift, came home to my “profession”. I laugh as I look back, for I was always trying to make it still fit within the confines of what people and our culture were comfortable with – this did not, does not work! We are all gloriously unique, thus our life expression is our own dance to share with the world. Ironically I have always been serving my purpose in one form or another my whole life – being the truth even when it is most challenging, offering the safe place for all to be themselves, assisting all who ask how to heal, holding those in pain as they release, en-passioning all who seek the spark, and dancing with everyone who will join me.

The world was not ready yet, I could feel it and thus I kept most of what I thought and felt to myself, for fear of being seen as crazy. The trees, river, meadows, earth, sky, and creatures knew my truth, for the 100,000 acres of northern Michigan woodlands were my sanctuary – my safe place to dance naked with complete abandon. To this day I go to nature to fill my soul, to connect with my truth, and to remember why I am here. For you see nature dances with complete raw exposure every day, in every moment, in complete wild grace at all times – she never judges, condemns, or ridicules – she gloriously dances with you in storms, sunshine, wind, and throughout the seasons.

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“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

New Years twenty-seventeen found me dancing with robust joy, unbridled passion, and invigorated faith in the company of my sister, brother, mother, children, niece, nephews, and….  It was the last night of our time with family, a perfect closure to a time of fully coming home unto me with absolute love. I had come with hesitation, fearful that I would not have the courage to stay true to my passion, concerned I would “take things personal” moving into a defensive place of hurt – instead I found myself healing, letting go of the old stories, and embracing with immense gratitude the love that lifted my wings to soar. Finally I saw through the self prescribed fear that my family and friends love me for who I am and they wish for me to succeed at whatever I dream. I left this reunion dancing with my body, heart and soul.

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“Dance is the hidden language of the soul” ― Martha Graham

As I have shared before I loved what I learned from the young when I worked in daycare’s and the elderly when I worked in a nursing home – they are not afraid to be there truth, they joyously dance with abandon, passion, and joy. Dancing has been a gift all my life, it has soothed me in times of hurt, helped me to release anger and rage, joyfully enhanced immense joy and celebration, and opened me in times of quiet contemplation. Moving our bodies in union with our hearts and soul awakens us to our inner child and wise old soul. It is my hope that in 2017 you will dance with complete passion, surrender, love and joy!! I know it is time for this girl to take some FUN dance classes – anyone care to join me?

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“Dance, when you’re broken open. Dance, if you’ve torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you’re perfectly free.” ― Jalaluddin Rumi

Embracing Uncertainty….

un·cer·tain·ty

noun

  1. the state of being uncertain.

Synonyms: unpredictabilityunreliability, riskiness, chanciness, precariousness, changeability,

2. something that is uncertain or that causes one to feel uncertain.

Synonyms: doubtqualmmisgivingapprehensionquandaryreservationscruple, second thought, queryquestionquestion marksuspicion

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Exploring the unknown requires tolerating uncertainty. ~Brian Greene

Who would have thought that I would come to a place where I would begin to explore words such as “uncertainty”, “unknown”, “risk”, and “impermanence”? Words that we are taught to avoid at all costs; words whose definition makes most people cover their eyes, plug their ears, and hold their breath, hoping it will go away!!

When I travel back through my life I smile at the teachings along the way, they were put there with good intentions, with love, with hopes for an abundant life full of success. All the “dos” and “don’ts” taught with each passing year – kindergarten, elementary school, junior high, high school and years upon years of college for this girl. Every stepping stone put in place to prepare me for life, to guide me, to tell me “right” from “wrong”, yet I question did all of these teachings truly set me up to live a life of passionate exuberant joy and love? I do believe that the original intentions of it were honorable, however as I watch its impacts on my own children my heart hurts.

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Uncertainty is a sign of humility, and humility is just the ability or the willingness to learn. ~Charlie Sheen

Thus as I welcome my fifty-second year of life on this planet, I explore with great intensity the true paradoxes of our world – fear/love, uncertainty/predictable, risk/security, impermanence/forever, passion/apathy, courage/meekness… I begin to fully understand that for me a life of wild raw joy is one that rides the very edge of these paradoxes.

  • As I welcome edgy fear, I feel more loving gratitude for all that is, my insides squiggle with excited curiosity at just what might happen next!
  • As I embrace uncertainty I experience the true sense of potential, of becoming more!
  • In hugging the reality of risk involved in my present situation I open to the possibilities of grander abundance and thus perhaps more real security.
  • In completely recognizing that all is impermanent I forever humbly honor with immense gratitude that which is!
  • As I dance with ecstatic passion, apathy falls to the wayside, morphing into empathy for those stuck in such space.
  • Alas as I breathe deep into my courageous heart to embody the pure potential, I thank the aspects of myself which kept me meek and playing small, for I now know the difference!!

Ironically I ask each and every one of you to honestly look at the truth that all is impermanent, that uncertainty really is what exists, and that without risk, passion, courage, and love, nothing today would be as it is!! Heck, the world would still be flat!!

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“As far as the laws of mathematics refer to reality, they are not certain; and as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality.” ― Albert Einstein

To manifest a life of unlimited possibilities we must embrace uncertainty. Thus it is necessary for me to take a deep breath that welcomes in the greatness uncertainty offers. As I practice this each day, I pull back the layers of teachings which have covered my body, mind, and spirit like the bandages of a mummy. Beneath each layer I expose myself to a new sense of vulnerability, another layer of hypocrisy stripped away, removing daily the antidotal projection of others. It graces me with the opportunity to wiggle in the pure exposure to “what if”!!

Today is a good day to embrace uncertainty!! Every day is a grand day to expand into the pure richness of the unknown, for who knows what fantabulous quests will unfold, what abundance shall flow forth, and what profound experiences may awaken on the journey.

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A gentleman would be ashamed should his deeds not match his words. ~Confucius

I invite you today to take a moment to ponder – What is certain in your life (be completely honest here)? Then, what is possible if you embraced a new love for uncertainty?

“I can’t afford to…”

In the last blog I shared about how I always hear “I don’t have time” from people who say they want to improve their health, start a new well being habit, change a self-defeating pattern, etc… So instead, they put it off for a tomorrow that never comes. Later they look in their rear-view mirror wondering what if I had made time??

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I wasted time, and now doth time waste me. ~William Shakespeare

Today, let’s explore the second comment I mentioned – “I can’t afford to!” My initial response to this statement is “you cannot afford not to” for your health and well being is what makes everything in your life possible. If you are ill, limited by body pain, and health conditions, then you are not able to engage in life to the fullest extent. Why would you want this?

Here is what fascinates me, people will spend $600.00 or more on the latest cell phone/technology without batting an eye, they will pay thousands and thousands of dollars for a new car, when their old one still works just fine, they will spend $300.00 on a new pair of boots that will sit among the others in their closet, thousands on new clothes when again their old clothes still fit and work just fine…this list could goes on and on! They will not however, go to the local health food store to spend that same $300.00 spent on boots to provide healthy food for their family. Hmmm… I personally find this a very curious choice.

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To keep the body in good health is a duty… otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. ~Buddha

Let’s go back to 300-400 BC to gather the infinite wisdom of Hippocrates a Greek physician who clearly stated – “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.” Study after study after study has proven that his words hold powerful truth, yet as a mass population we communicate that what we wear is more important, what we drive in, what we play in (rafts, skis, sporting equipment, hotels, etc…), and what we hold in our hands to “stay connected” is of more value than our health.

All of my adult life I have spent more on the food I put in my body than on my clothes or most material items. I am content to type on an old computer, keep my cell phone until it breaks, and drive my car for as long as it will get me from point A to B safely. Adding children who are now teenagers/young adults to the grocery needs certainly increases the budget demands for healthy, organic, local (when possible) food. Here is the glorious trade off, none of us take medications and I have not paid a doctor bill for myself in over twenty four years (except for one pink-eye treatment. I had midwives for both home births), and I can’t remember the last time I took either of my children to the doctor due to an illness. My son who is eighteen has been on antibiotics once and my daughter who is fourteen received antibiotics once when she had to have oral surgery due to a fall that damaged her teeth. Will this good fortune continue, who knows? While we do get our colds and occasional illnesses, we trust our body’s powerful immune systems to heal us.

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The foundation of success in life is good health: that is the substratum fortune; it is also the basis of happiness. A person cannot accumulate a fortune very well when he is sick. ~P. T. Barnum

Of course there are other ways to spend money on caring for ourselves, gym memberships, yoga/exercise classes, meditation retreats, massage, vacation, classes to enhance our lives, etc…. Again it is my experience to observe people putting these on the back burner, instead they buy the latest gadget, go to the mall every weekend, go out to eat several times a week, purchase a latte on the way to work every day, buy the latest camping equipment/outdoor gear, you get the idea.

Again I turn to Hippocrates – “A wise man should consider that health is the greatest of human blessings, and learn how by his own thought to derive benefit from his illnesses.” AndNatural forces within us are the true healers of disease.” The present health situation in the United States is absolutely shocking to me, for we KNOW better, yet we make other choices, preferring to pay the cost in extreme ways – seeking and hoping for the quick fix so we do not have to be accountable for our own actions and decisions.

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Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits. ~Thomas Jefferson

I dare you, keep an account of your expenditures for one month, even two weeks, where are you willing to spend your money. How much do your coffee drinks add up to? Your beer/wine? Material purchases that are not necessary? Cable? Medications? Doctor bills? If those dollars were directed to taking better care of you from the inside out, what might happen? How might you begin to feel? Would you be surprised when health issues started to heal? Hmmmm…I wonder??? Sadly most people do not take action towards healthier choices until they “get ill” or face a serious “health crisis”.

Here is a little example, my favorite latte typically cost a minimum of $4.20, if I were to purchase one every day during the work week I would spend $21.00 a week, by the end of the month $84.00, in a year $1008.00 – WOW. Instead of a latte I could have a gym membership and add money to my grocery budget for organic greens or fruit; an investment into my long term health and well being.

I must be extremely honest, having the money to feed my family high quality food has not been easy, at times it has been very challenging, however I joyfully know it is the right choice. I am daily grateful for this body that takes great care of me, that continues to thrive and live very fully with no limits!!

I can’t afford to!! Really?? I sincerely ask you – how can you NOT afford to? Your health is truly the most important treasure you have (but you already know that!!) and our bodies are miraculous at healing if we give them the fuel and energy to do so….

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Wealth is the ability to fully experience life. ~Henry David Thoreau

Of course I sincerely honor it is your choice – if how you spend your time and money is serving you presently to the utmost, in manifesting a life that is healthy, happy, full of passion, joy, and love, then don’t change a thing. If however you do not feel good, are not happy, feel dead inside, experience that again you are on the same self-defeating hamster wheel, I would humor that maybe it is time for a new choice.

“I don’t have the time…”

As a health coach, teacher and writer I get two comments almost all the time with regard to encouraging someone to care for themselves and live their life to the fullest with passion and joy –

FirstI don’t have the time to meditate, go to the gym, create healthy meals for my family, go after my dreams, take time for myself, etc…

SecondI cannot afford to, buy healthy and organic food, to get a gym membership, pay for a health coach, see a counselor, take a yoga class, invest in myself and my dreams, etc…

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Lost time is never found again. ~Benjamin Franklin

Today I want to chat about the first statement; the second one will grace us down the road.

Let me begin by first sharing that I am a single mom with two teenagers, running a business, teaching classes, coaching clients, working out, meditating, journaling, preparing home-cooked meals, and I make it a priority to share high quality time with the people I care about (this means I had to learn how to say “no” and create boundaries). I do not share all of this to brag, or compare, I share it to state right from the start that I get “being busy” – I truly do!! I also get “Living Life to its Fullest NOW!!”

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Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored. ~Earl Nightingale

I can look back on a couple of times in my life that make my present life look very simplistic. The first was when I was thirty years old, I started a publication business with a partner to create the first color, creative Real Estate booklet (before the computer and internet took over), boy, was I crazy. Selling ads to some of the best salespeople around took some real tenacity and determination. “Homes of Idaho” was birthed- it was my first child in many ways (it still exists today, owned by the people who took it over). Now what made this venture crazy was that in addition to the business, I also helped to manage a local coffee restaurant, the “Koffee Klatsch” and I worked at the mall in the evenings at “Limited Express”. My day would start before 4:00am and end at 11:00pm or later. Ahhhh to be that young and foolish again, hehehe!!

The second time I found myself burning the candle on both ends was in 2009. I was now forty-four years old with two young children (son 9 yrs old, daughter 6 years old), I had lost my home and car due to job loss, so we were forced leave our mountain home and move to town. We embraced and learned the gifts of biking or walking everywhere. Unable to find a job that could provide for us, I decided to embark on completing my long overdue Bachelors degree. Full time school, part-time work, two children (single parent), with bikes as our mode of transport!! We were blessed with incredible friends who helped us with big grocery runs, projects, and the list goes on and on!! This time period was definitely character building for the three of us, we discovered personal things about ourselves and how we truly do show up to be there for each other. Upon reflection, this experience truly solidified us as a family that rode the waves together with love, patience, understanding, and determination. I am so grateful for this experience, for it humbly woke us up to MORE!

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Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. ~Steve Jobs

During the periods of time mentioned above I continued to work out, journal, prepare meals at home, and enjoyed the gift of walks whenever I could sneak them in. My workouts would morph according to what I could fit in; an early morning run in the dark, free weights in the living room, a yoga video, or crazy wild dancing to keep me sane. Journaling has been a part of my life for over twenty years, it is how I start my day – a time to download and upload depending on where my conscious and subconscious wish to wander. Meals were a time to honor my internal body, it was very important to keep it healthy, for I needed it fully functioning to maintain my crazy life.  Last but not least, walking in nature is one of my forms of meditation, it has been a part of my life since I could physically put one foot in front of the other – a necessary for this girl to maintain sanity in a world full of chaos.

I share the above periods in my life to empathize, respect, honor, and say with true sincerity, “I get it” – I truly do!! Each and every one of us has faced times of intensity, demanding schedules, unexpected life upheavals, etc… How we live in that challenge is what sets the tone for our well being and presence in the “storm”. I sacrificed sleep (not a good practice) and missed out on many shared times with friends during these intense times. There is always a choice we face, for I do not humanly know how one can “do it all” – the give and take dance is a part of the survival.

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The time is always right to do what is right. ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

My response to “I don’t have time” is – “are you willing to actually take a serious look at where and how you spend your time?” At the end of this blog you will see an image of a “time sheet” I created, please feel free to mimic it or if you would like a copy just let me know at fawncaveney@gmail.com and I will email you a copy.

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The two most powerful warriors are patience and time. ~Leo Tolstoy

On this time sheet be completely honest – the only person you hurt by “fudging the truth” is you!! How long are you on social media, how long do you watch television, shop, etc… At the end of one week take an open hearted look at your time sheet – “Is this how you want to live your life?” “Is the way you are presently spending your time going to help you manifest what you want?” “Do you now see windows of opportunity to get a workout in, eat healthier, pursue your deepest desires/dreams, spend more quality time with those you love, etc…?” It is my experience that most people do not realize how much time they waste in a myriad of ways. There truly is no right or wrong way for one to spend their time per se; however, I am going to guess that after a week of keeping a time log, your awareness of how you spend your time may change. Hope you’re up for the challenge, it is eye opening – maybe you “do not have time” to keep a time log, just teasing….

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“A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” ~Charles Darwin

Yeasayer!!

Once a week for years now I have opened the “Boise Weekly” publication to view the “Free Will Astrology” by Rob Brezsny (http://www.freewillastrology.com/). Every time I read the new entry, I am floored by how spot on he is with where I am in life and what is up for me! What I have always loved about these zodiac moments is that he makes me think, for it is not the normal blah…blah…blah… horoscope predictions, they run much deeper. Free Will Astrology has been hitting the stands in over 120 publications for over 28 years; definitely stood the test of time.

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“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.” ― Victor Hugo

Anyway, to get back to the title of this blog entry – Yeasayer!! My birthday is on the horizon for this week and as you know I am madly working on my new business Haleness Hub (http://halenesshub.liveeditaurora.com/) a lifelong dream and passion. As with anything in life, when you step off the hamster wheel of “what is known” to create something different, your new way of being or living seems to get bombarded by the “naysayer” while what we deeply need is the “yeasayer!!”. The ones who support, cheer, and help us to manifest with great optimism.  Thus I had to chuckle when I picked up my horoscope for this next week –

 The word “naysayer” describes a person who’s addicted to expressing negativity. A “yeasayer,” on the other hand, is a person who is prone to expressing optimism. According to my assessment of the astrological omens, you can and should be a creative yeasayer in the coming days — both for the sake of your own well-being and that of everyone whose life you touch. For inspiration, study Upton Sinclair’s passage about Beethoven: He was “the defier of fate, the great yea-sayer.” His music is “like the wind running over a meadow of flowers, superlative happiness infinitely multiplied.” 

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“What day is it?” It’s today,” squeaked Piglet. My favorite day,” said Pooh.” ― A.A. Milne

 In actuality I am not sure I could ever embrace being a “naysayer” ugh…just the negative energy I would have to hold and send out makes me shudder – yuck!! I cannot imagine getting up everyday thinking negative thoughts – way to draining and depressing. Besides if I want a fill up on “naysaying”, I can just turn on the news, media, Facebook, etc.., to get my fill and then some; especially right now with all the political buzz.

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“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ― Anne Frank

Nope, I prefer being a yeasayer for myself, my children, friends, family, and anyone who crosses my path. Nothing feels better than sharing a smile with a stranger, exchanging positive words with an acquaintance, helping someone to accomplish something, encouraging my children to dream, the list goes on and on – for there are a zillion ways to show up as a YEASAYER!!

When I think of the amazing people in the world who have risen above, manifested great things, walked a path of authentic expression, and been willing to go outside the bounds to create – I see the yeasayers in the crowd!! They all had to have the strength, courage, faith, and love to block out the naysayers, so that all they heard was the cheers from within and the few yeasayers who rallied behind them.

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“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ― Winston S. Churchill

As I continue to step with impassioned faith towards my visions, I am intensely fueled by the excitement I feel with serving my purpose in assisting others to come home to the “yeasayer” that lives within them. To help them recover the healthy body, mind, and spirit that is waiting. To guide those who seek to live a life uncommon and to role model my belief that anything is possible!! A smile crosses my face, for I have only just begun – there is so much I am working on that will soon be offered to those who want to step off the “naysayer” path to ignite their dynamic truth.

I can understand why there are naysayers in my life, for I have always struggled to find satisfaction and contentment in the “life we are taught” to live. It is not that it is bad, for many are extremely happy and satisfied living this way, which is a wonderful thing. However there are also many like me who feel an uneasy feeling, a sense that there is more, that there is something we are meant to do, to experience, to share. Like me they keep trying to fit in, but.., the feeling only grows more intense as the years go by.

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“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Yes, I have tried many different things over my crazy life journey – 31 different jobs/careers over my thirty-five year working life; lots of experiences that fuel my empathetic understanding for all who enter my world. Yes, I have failed! Yes, I have fallen down really hard! Yes, I have struggled to provide for my kids and self! Yes, yes, yes…. President Abraham Lincoln (also an Aquarian) did not arrive at his presidency without “failures” under his belt, failures that made him more, that served him well in understanding the people he represented while in office (http://www.history.com/topics/us-presidents/abraham-lincoln#­). Thomas Edison (another Aquarian) the youngest of seven children did not “learn to talk” until he was four years old. At eleven years of age he became a home schooled student because his teacher saw him as a problem child with an “addled, scrambled” brain. By the way Lincoln was one of Edison’s heroes (http://www.thomasedison.com/biography.html), a role model in the crowd for this entrepreneurial inventing young man who continued forth despite immense naysayer push back!!  Are you not grateful to these two persistent, determined, creative, wise men, who listened to the yeasayer inside of themselves? What about, Nelson Mandela (27 years in prison), Mahatma Gandhi, Rosa Parks, Amelia Earhart, and… They all said YES to the yeasayer that lives inside! If they had given voice to the naysayer where would we be today???

One does not have to become a president, inventor, world leader, or anything else that huge to become a magnanimous impacting yeasayer! The impacts we each make upon those around us is more than we realize. I am sure you had a favorite teacher along the way whose yeasaying made you want to be more! What about the amazing wait person who made your last meal out an incredible positive experience. The janitor who maintains with pride and respect the space you occupy during the day? The entrepreneurial individual who runs your favorite spa, store, business… We seek out the yeasayers because they are the ones creating the waves for a better next moment, and next, and next.

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“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

I conclude today’s post with a HUGE thank you to all those who have had the courage to say YES to the yeasayer within themselves – for they are the game changers, the ones who embark into uncharted territory, the people who fall down and get up with renewed faith, courage, and perseverance. I am immensely grateful for they are the role models I look to, the fuel for my fire, and the source of my inspiration to keep stepping towards my dreams.

Really think about it – Do you want to roam through your life as a cautious naysayer, full of negative doubting energy? Or, would you prefer to embody the positive energy and way of being of a yeasayer? The choice is yours to make in all your moments. The life you have is yours, how do you want to live it? How do you want your children to journey it? It is a new year, what are you going to do with this precious time?

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“I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.” ― Nelson Mandela

I say hat’s off to the YEASAYERS everywhere – bring it on with full passion!!

New Blog Days!!

My blog entries have been published on Monday’s and Wednesday’s the new days will now be Monday and Saturday :-)!! That way you can sit with your morning cup of tea/coffee to read in a relaxed manner after a busy week.

Thank you for reading my blog – I truly appreciate you coming to the page to ponder life with me; exploring and exposing ourselves to deeper places/thoughts.

See you Saturday – I leave you with my all time favorite Gandhi quote – what I strive for everyday!!

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“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi