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“Beingness” Examples…

I offer you three examples of how “Beingness” can be used to shift and change your experience in ALL moments!!

You have the power in every moment to create CHANGE!

Within in you lies the simple pure ability to create and manifest a life of joy, love, peace and so much more. Amazingly it takes less than 10 seconds!

You are at Choice,

Life Transforms in the small moments, one by one, they ripple to create more…

In your “Beingness” lies the truth to Transform you life…
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Beingness is Grace…

In my last blog, I presented some of the opportunities life has gifted me with to explore Choice, to choose being a “victim” of my life story, or a “hero” lifted by gratitude.

Are you tired of hearing yourself tell the story about what “happened to you” AGAIN?

Are you ready to let go, surrender, forgive and thus open up space for more?

Do you prefer to repeat life patterns over and over and over again?

Do you enjoy being stuck in mediocrity and suffering?

The state of suffering is a choice… Your Choice!

Writing that last post was very difficult for me, I hear people say you have to share what you’ve come through, so people can relate. Yet, why? Why do I want to focus on that which was? Why would I not wish to live and celebrate in the here and now?

As I work with clients, and teach classes/workshops I am often shocked by how most people want to carry around their “sad story”. They choose to stay stuck between yesterday’s negative experience and today’s opportunity.

WHY???

While there are gifts in our reflections, they can also drown and blind us…

I wish for all people the pure Grace of Beingness! The Freedom, Peace, Joy, Expansive Gratitude and Playful Wonder of this space just makes me smile from within, creating a simple giggle.

I close today by asking you, “How do you want to journey life – stuck in your chosen suffering or dancing in the grace of Being?” It is Your Choice….

  • Today I challenge you, write down all the “stories” you have told over and over and over again while holding a negative emotion/energy.
  • Ask yourself if hanging onto this story serves you?

We shall explore more tomorrow.

Love, Freedom, Peace, Joy, Serenity, Grace lie within the space of your true Being…

If you Choose “Learning to Dance in the Grace of Beingness“, then continue to join me, for we shall explore more about Beingness and then next week dive into Transformation.

If you would like to explore more, go to The Beingness Project.

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Why Beingness…

What has brought me to this page to write about “Beingness”? In the chaotic busy world we live in, it almost sounds backwards from what we are taught. “Just Do It” is the mantra, right?! The key word there being “DO”.

I respect and honor that life does requiring us “Doing”. However, I have learned the hard way, that if you do not first live from that place of “Being” the DO is like swimming against the tide in a hurricane.

Within the center rests the still Beingness…

Who am I to write such stuff, you may ask? How can I remotely know how challenging life can be?

Well, life has gifted me with many opportunities to vulnerably surrender into the pure grace of BEINGNESS. I’ve had so many opportunities to “give up”, feel like a failure and choose not “good enough”.

Here are a few of those cutting edge times (perhaps you will relate):

  • I watched my car get pulled away because I could not make the payments. Leaving me and my two young children with our walking feet and bikes for a year and a half (my daughter was in first grade, my son in fourth).
  • I closed the door to my home of sixteen years, as the mortgage company took possession, for I could not make the payments. This amazing home grew me up as a woman, witnessed the birth of my two children and graced me with solace and peace in the storms of life.
  • I have lost jobs without warning, leaving me with no way to provide for my children and self.
  • I have juggled working three jobs to make ends meet.
  • I’ve experienced having only a $1.76 to my name and wondering how I was going to feed my family and keep a roof over our head.
  • I went back to college full time in my forties, while working a job and raising my 6 year old daughter and 9 year old son. At this time we had no car.
  • We had to move in with an incredibly gracious family for five months. Three teenagers, three adults, one bathroom in 1800 square feet. My 16 year old son and I were roommates during this time, his bed rested less than two feet from mine.
  • I had every penny garnished from my bank account by a credit card company. The money was for rent, food, and living expenses for my children and self. It was ALL gone. Discovered this loss as I tried to pay for our groceries.
In all moments we are at “Choice” – within that is the peaceful BEing..

These are just a few of the times in my life where I was pushed up against the wall to make a Choice.

The pure state of “Beingness” is the loving grace that calls one home to a truth beyond verbal sharing. It is the infinite calm in the storm, the peace in the chaos, the light in the dark… In a world that teaches “Do”, I wish to help you remember and discover the empowering gift of “Being” – for it is the loving, peaceful center within the storm.

Enjoy the gift of “Being” as you listen to this guided meditation.
Breathe deeply into your truthful Beingness…

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What is “Beingness”

Today I invite you to go to my labor of love, my purpose, my calling –

The Beingness Project…

There you will reacquaint yourself with your very essence. Re-Introducing yourself to your natural state of “BEING”.

Are you ready to Stop Fixing and Start Being?

Enjoy the Guided Meditation and Downloadable Worksheet you will find there.

In our Beingness there is an infinite space of peace, love and joy…

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Deciding for Yourself…

What an amazing week it has been to explore our Expectations. Now it is time to decide for yourself which Expectations serve you, creating more in your life and which ones burden you, limiting your growth and joy?

In truly listening, we can hear our truth…

Life is a constant journey of becoming. If we notice, breathe into our personal awareness and then choose for OURSELVES we start to travel down the path that is uniquely our own.

If we step in faith the path comes up to beckon us forward…

This means taking the time to unravel your Domestication, to stop Reacting and start Choosing for your own personal expansion. Embracing a path that empowers your desired emotional experience and learning that you ALONE have the power to live and manifest the life YOU desire.

You are Enough, You are Worthy, You are Perfect – Stop Fixing, Start Being…
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Truthful Expectations…

As you have taken time this week to identify and notice your Expectations, you have been gifting yourself with a great awareness that manifests change.

Owning our truth is empowering...

The change is a powerful one, for you stop “Taking Things Personal” which undermines and powerfully impacts all relationships (see my book).

Many of our quiet Expectations are wrapped around our emotional desires and needs. Let’s look at a few examples:

Owning and sharing our desired Expectations frees everyone…
  • I enjoy touch, it is how I feel loved and how I share love.
    • If I have a partner who does not enjoy touch like I do, can I expect him/her to give me touch?
    • Can anyone read my mind and know this?
    • If I do not share this truth about my desired Expectation what is likely to unfold?
How we like our surroundings is riddled with quiet Expectations…
  • I feel stress when the house becomes messy.
    • If I live with other people, how might the Expectation that I need a neat and clean house impact the relationship?
    • What if I do not share my truth?
We often assume those closest to us know our Expectations and needs…
  • Deep personal conversation is how I truly connect with others. In my intimate relationships it is “foreplay” for me.
    • If I do not communicate this truthful Expectation in my friendships or intimate relationships, what will unfold?
    • Will my needs get met?
    • Is it fair to expect others to know this?

Today, take the time to notice your Expectations (download worksheet) – then get Truthful about them. It is amazing what can become when we own our Expectations, share them or Choose to let them go.

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Expectation Awakening…

What might you learn about yourself, your family and the world around you if you truly explored the Expectations that riddle your life?

How do Expectations limit our pure potential…

If you were suddenly picked up and placed in the middle of a small village in Vietnam what would you witness that was different? What Personal Expectations about how people should live, might you face? What about how we should eat? What we should be doing? How we dress, communicate, the list goes on and on…

What wonders might we discover if we set ourselves free of Expectations..?

Now you are lifted and placed in the middle of Moscow, Russia. What might you struggle with here? Why? How do your Expectations that are wrapped up in your Domesticated upbringing impact how you adapt?

How can you use your Personal Expectations of the self to experience more..?

Next you are carried to the Al Haram Mosque, Mecca, in Saudi Arabia. What would you feel? Why? How much of what you feel is created by what you are taught, what you should EXPECT by being there?

How much of what you believe is dictated by the fears and Expectations of others..?

Finally you find yourself dropped into a farm in the middle of Nebraska, in the United States. As you place yourself into the experience what do you now feel? Notice your physical, mental, and emotional reactions. Where do they come from? Why?

What a powerful experience to notice our immediate reactions, for then we are Choice to Change…

As you gift yourself with the awakening to your Domesticated Expectations the world becomes a much more friendly place, for we begin to understand that everyone is living from a place of “taught” ways to BE and DO. As a human BEING what might you discover if you explore the depths of your own desires and passions, setting yourself free from Expectations that do not serve your truth?

I invite you to explore more at – The Beingness Project

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Expectational Backlash…

Why waste time exploring Expectations? Who cares? What does it matter?

I daily observe and witness the backlash of Expectations. Some are subtle, while others compound and intensify into something quite frustrating. As humans we tend to carry around the idea that people “get it”, of course they know what we want and how we want it, right!? Doesn’t everyone do it that way, want it that way? The truth – NO!!

Is quiet time alone an expectation you have in your life?

We are all unique, raised in different homes, impacted by our own special families, brought up in a culture and way of thinking and believing that is exclusively our own. Therefore our Domesticated Expectations are individualistic in addition to those that we have chosen personally for our way of being.

Notice today as you walk around, how does someone in your office prefer their desk? Is it neat or cluttered? How do you drink your coffee versus your friend? Do you make your bed, but your partner never makes the bed? Are you one of those people that has the personal Expectation to work out everyday? Do you Expect people to open the door for you? Etc..??

Do you expect people to know, understand, respect and honor your rituals, religious beliefs, spiritual ways of being, without communicating?

Tomorrow we will dig into our assumptions around Expectations – the powerful boomerang effect that can have some really negative impacts. To prepare for that, think about how you do or do not communicate your Expectations. Do you Expect your family to know what you want, how and when? Do you Expect your partner to know certain things that you have never communicated? At work, do you assume that your boss and colleagues know how you feel and what you like/want?

Sharing openly our Expectations can free us all…

Downloadable Worksheet

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Release the Bonds of Expectations…

As you more deeply explore and become acquainted with your relationship to Expectations (attaching worksheet here, just in case you missed it) you can empower yourself to make choices. Do your self-imposed Expectations serve you or not? Do they enhance your life experience? Create a sense of peace, expand love, spread joy, open up more, etc..? Or do they burden you? Limit your capacity to relax and enjoy? Impact your health and well being?

Viewing our authentic truth, introduces us to our heart’s desire...

As you become aware of your sneaky Expectations, you will begin to understand how they can often cripple and harm your relationships and quality of life. Do not criticize yourself for any of them, for many came into your world through the Domestication process. An example might be – what is your Expectation for cleaning the space you live in? Your Expectation for who you should date, marry, share time with or even talk to? Your Expectation of what you should be wearing?

As I journey and keep vigilant awareness around my thoughts and choices, I notice that some Expectations have served me for years, such as my workout regime. However, like all things, our needs and desires morph, so it is important to adjust accordingly. Recently I have been exploring what is my “new” Desired Expectation with regard to working out. I no longer enjoy or wish to push myself in the gym as I once did, it does not serve my present desires and uses. Thus, I have been releasing my Expectation of how my workouts “should” be to readjust and adapt to where I am now. Whew, what a sweet gift it is to release such pressure and judgment.

In honoring ourselves, we learn how to honor others…

All things in life change, transform and morph. Impermanence is a given. So what we once Expected from ourselves or others may not serve today as it did yesterday. Be open to the discovery that some Expectations have never served the TRUE Self. Have fun continuing to explore your Expectations, releasing those that do not serve to open the space to BE (check out The Beingness Project post for more).

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Why…?

I woke today in pure, sweet, quiet grace… I could feel the nag of the human doing-ness pull on my arm. I told it to wait, to allow me the joy of BEING. As I welcomed the layered stillness and coolness of a 3:00am morning, the precious time before the world gets crazy and the chaos begins, a question rose from within me – “Why?” “Why do you get up Fawn?” “What propels you to step into each day?” “Why do you go forth into this world day after day?” “What is your ultimate truthful WHY?”

The raw pure essence of that which is, rests between the waking mind and the souls slumbering spirit …

Instead of brushing such a question aside, I sunk into its expansive grace. I allowed it to cradle me like a lover’s gentle warmth. As I breathed deeply into it, I smiled at the answer which always gurgles up with such beautiful clarity – to BE LOVE. If I swim in the vibrational energy of love, all personal and outside expectations slide away, like a raindrop releasing itself from a leaf.

In nature we are gifted to witness the purest form of BEINGNESS, free of all expectations…

Today I greet you with a question – What is your WHY?

If you release yourself from ALL personal and outside expectations, if you let go of ALL do, if you surrender into the luscious grace of BEING, what rises from within as your WHY to BE?

As you explore this question, you might ask yourself, is life driving me, or am I driving my life from my WHY of BEING?

What if all you had to do was BE???