Day 5 – Quote Reflection…

“Life is Not Measured by the Number of Breaths we Take, But by the Moments that Take our Breath Away”  ~Unknown

The above quote was sent to me by a dear friend. It is a powerful one to contemplate. I read it, close my eyes to reflect and feel into those moments that have taken my breath away. I smile as I sweetly remember my first true love, getting on the plane to go overseas for the first time, the birth of my children, sooo…many Big moments that caught my breath. However, there are many glorious small moments, that like butterfly wings touch the heart and soul, remaining etched in the memory bank of life.

“Whether you reach a lot of people or have a profound impact on a few people, their memories of you are your afterlife.” ~Greg Graffin

In thinking about this quote I feel immense gratitude, for my life has been full of moments when my breath was taken, halted or stilled for a time. I love standing on a mountaintop to feel the wind against my skin, twisting and turning my hair in a dance. Nothing is more exhilarating and breathtaking than a skinny dip in a secluded mountain lake with no one there, just you and the nature that swaddles you. Looking at a new art piece my daughter has created, watching my son on the stage during a performance, a tender kiss with an intimate partner…. The list is glorious.

In the crazy chaos of our world today, I often worry that many people have forgotten how to feel the wind in their hair, enjoy the laughter of their children, truly connect with their partner, experience the awe of the setting sun or rising moon. I experience people looking to the computer, television, or phone to live a vicarious life, to watch for “moments” upon a screen. I wonder how many get missed in their own life through this distraction?

“The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.” ~Henry Ward Beecher

It is my dream that we do not forget the pure grace of such precious moments. For they truly are the things we carry tightly within our hearts, minds, and souls. When I worked in the nursing home, it was these breathless experiences that filled the patients stories. Their eyes would light up, their voice would rise, and a certain gaiety would embody them. I don’t know about you, but for me, when I am taking my last breaths, I intend to be smiling about all the moments that took my breath away throughout the years.

“Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” ~Confucius

What are some of your moments? As you think about them, do they make you smile and think of even more?  I hope today’s quote reminds you to notice, be aware and help to co-create such breath taking moments.


Day 4 – Quote Embodiment…

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

I would be extremely remiss, if I did not share this quote, for it is one that has guided me for as far back as I can remember. Plus, it is from one of my hero’s who inspires me immensely. Being the “Change” is not always easy, it can often be quite challenging. The other reason I share it today, is that it’s my son’s 19th Birthday, the perfect day to share a quote that I have watched him embody since he was a child. At four years old I found him bagging granola for the homeless, we had not even talked about homeless people, he just knew. I have been blessed to watch him treat others as he wishes to be treated, stand in his truth when it was not easy and struggle when he feels his actions may not be what someone else wants him to do.

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“A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

Why do I love this quote so? For me personally it summarizes and invokes the one thing we can ALWAYS do and be, “The Change We Wish To See In The World”. We cannot change another person, we can only change ourselves. If we “Do as I say, not as I do”, our credibility is completely nonexistent. Who wants to follow that type of role model, not I.

As a parent this quote was HUGE for me. How can I ask my children to “go for it”, if I am not willing to? How can I encourage them to dream, if they do not hear and see me going after my dreams? Who am I if I share with them to forgive, when I myself cannot forgive? What truth can I expect from them, if I cannot personally be open and share my REAL TRUTH with them? How can I expect them to be funny, light, silly, and full of life, if I myself do not embody such actions?

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

The awareness that I must be the change I wish to see in the world has played in my heart, mind, and soul throughout my life. As a junior high teacher, oh my!! They are smart, they are watching, they are observing to see if you “walk your talk” – you better believe I stand up to embody what I teach and admit with truth the times I fall down.  As a manager, as a salesperson, as a caregiver, as an optical specialist, etc.., it does not matter what I do, how I do it and show up is what gets noticed, it impacts everyone.

For me this one simple line shares the most profound truth. If we all choose to be the change we wish to see in the world, what might happen? Do you tell others to do something you yourself will not do? Do you ask your children to behave a particular way that you are not willing to be? Here is a big one, do you look out at others living a life you wish you were living, yet you are not willing to take action steps towards manifesting that for yourself? Is it everyone else’s fault that your life is the way it is, you expect it to all change, yet you will not change yourself?

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

A seed does not grow without changing. An author does not become published without writing. One does not become a dancer by only watching. The canvas of your life is what you paint it to be. How do you want the world to be? Are you being that?

May today be full of joyful embodiment of that which you dream possible, even in the sweet small moments.

Day 3 – Quote Exploration…

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” 

― Henry David ThoreauWalden

My son and I watched “Dead Poets Society” the other night, for him it was the first time, for me, it had been years and I had forgotten so much of it. This quote was mentioned a few times in the movie, it is one I have contemplated for years now. There are many Thoreau quotes I enjoy, for while they are old, they are poignantly applicable.

“Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around.” ~Henry David Thoreau

Desperation is an intense word. Defined as – des•per•a•tion 

1. the state of being desperate or of having the recklessness of despair.

Despair hangs like an empty noose with no hope. Defined as – de·spair

1. 1.
the complete loss or absence of hope.
driven to despair, he throws himself under a train”


1. 1.
lose or be without hope.

As you look around your world, how many people do you observe living a life of quiet desperation? How many do you see walking a life of passion, purpose, contentment, love? Where do sit on this pendulum, the bar graph of life. Within this quote I see the opportunity to explore deeper the “meaning of life”. What is the space of happiness, contentment, joy, peace, love, gratitude. Where does it all sprout from? Why do the majority seem to choose and beckon a life of quiet discontent, sinking into despair.

“What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us.” ~Henry David Thoreau

Taking a peek at the movie I mention above, I think about Robin Williams the main character and wonder why? Why did he take his life. He was a man who seemed to have everything, who brought immense joy to so many, why? When did his life sink into quiet desperation? Things outside of us do not lift us up, it is that which resides from within that lifts us, carries us, and guides us.

As we step into our third day of the New Year, it is a great time to explore. What shall you encourage to expand and become? What do you desire to nurture and care for? How do you want to walk within that which is, for only you can make that decision? Will this be a year of quiet desperation or joyful love or? Will it be a dance or crawl, a combination of all, as you navigate the terrain?

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.” ~Henry David Thoreau

As you go forth today, it is my hope that your day shall be full of quiet curiosity, inquisitive reflection, and probing questioning.

Day 2 – Quote Wonder…

“It’s kind of fun to do the impossible.” Walt Disney

I like this one, it is fun to ponder and think about. Look around you right now. Take in the objects that adorn your space, your home, car, the things you do. How many of these things would exist if someone had not believed in creating the “impossible”? What about those of us that live in the United States, would we be here today if people before us had not believed in a far off land? After all the earth was flat!

What about how you are getting this blog entry within seconds of me hitting publish, no matter where you live? Hmmm…, I wonder how that possibility came to be? The car you drive, or the public transportation you ride in, where did that creation come from? I could go on and on, for that which exist came from someone’s imagination. Thank goodness for those who do not see limitation, but instead see unlimited possibilities!! The dreamers who do not listen to the naysayers, instead they keep trying and believing in the “impossible”.

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” ~Walt Disney

I personally love stories about people like Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, Amelia Earhart, Nelson Mandela, Rosa Parks, Stephen Poplawski, probably don’t even know who he is, yet his invention is one you likely use – the blender ( It is not just believing in the impossible for invented items, it is also the faith in the impossible for “ways of being”, people like Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., check out these people – (read #3 and #8).

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” ~Walt Disney

Is there a dream you have tucked up your sleeve? Are you afraid to believe it might come true. Life is definitely a vast wonderland when we believe we can do and be anything we desire. If everyone followed along baaaaa baaa baaaing…with the flock, where would we be today? The other glorious thing I love about people is that our dreams are diverse, the passions we enjoy come in all shapes and expressions! Isn’t it awesome how endless it is?! For me personally, it is about going after the life you wish to live and then being in it fully with passion. This dream may be to have a small organic farm, create the best french fry, travel the world, have a family, live in the country, become a bodybuilder, the possibilities go on forever. YOU are the author of your life story, the painter of your life canvas, the composer of your life song, the photographer of your life image!

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.” ~Walt Disney

I ask you today, “If there was one impossible thing you could go after, what would it be?” It is a New Year, it is a New Day, it is a New Moment! I can’t wait to see your “IMPOSSIBLE” or better stated, “I’M POSSIBLE”.

Send me your quotes – or comment below.

Day 1 – Quote Play

New Year’s Day 2018 Quote

“Just imagine becoming the way you used to be as a very young child, before you understood the meaning of any word, before opinions took over your mind. The real you is loving, joyful, and free. The real you is just like a flower, just like the wind, just like the ocean, just like the sun.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz

This is my dream for everyone, no matter their demographics!! Close your eyes, get very quiet within yourself, breathe deeply into your belly and call into your minds eye the innocent child you once were. Look at that amazing young person, the little boy or girl who used to run, dance, pretend, sing, play and find joy in the simplest of things. Feel that child, really look into their eyes, do they know and remember you? Do you know and remember them?

What did that child dream? Have you reached for the stars they believed could be touched? Have you forgotten how to laugh as they did? Are you still as fearless and open? Do you love as they did with trust and full on excitement?

“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz

As you sit with your inner child, allow yourself to feel their thoughts, their curiosity, their spontaneous joy and wonder. Remember how you could feel everything, sad, mad, happy, silly, crazy, wild, quiet… the emotions did not stay stuck within you to become blame or victim, they moved through you like the passing wind. Like the flower sometimes you bloomed full and extraordinary, other days you stayed tight in the bud, absorbing and watching.

When asked a question, you immediately responded with what was true for you. You did not get lost in thought about it needing to be right or wrong, your truth was your truth. It came from the pure gut place of your inner being.

“Everything you think about yourself, everything you believe about yourself, is because you learned it.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz

What would happen in your life if you invited your inner child to become a part of your daily life? Would your son catch you dancing and singing in the kitchen while making dinner as mine did last night? Would you laugh loud at a restaurant and have people look at you? Would you dance in your chair at a movie theater while watching a great musical? Maybe you would sing loud and not care if anyone heard? Perhaps you would engage in a water fight, a bubble blowing contest, hide-n-seek.., the fun possibilities are endless.

I conclude by querying you, what if you could  “become the way you used to be as a very young child” – how would your daily engagements change, what would the ripple effect be, how might everything shift?

“Every human is an artist. The dream of your life is to make beautiful art.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz

Happy New Year Everyone!! May this year be full of child-like PLAY, WONDER, LOVE and ADVENTURE.

Would love to hear your thoughts about today’s quotes and of course keep sending me your quotes (email, put Quote in the Subject heading), today is day 1 of 2018, lots of quotes yet to be explored!!

Day 55, Thank you 2017 – Calling all QUOTES for 2018!

I sit here realizing that this will be my last post for 2017, as always there is a bittersweetness when one chapter closes for another to open. 2017 graced me with profound, powerful lessons, teachings, experiences, and exciting becomings. It also gifted me with intensity, pain, challenge, inner will power, and raw authentic determination. It definitely was a year FULL to the max with life changing exploration and discovery.

I am so grateful. I smile from deep within as I reflect. Graced to dance in the 2017 New Year with my family in Michigan (see blog post to these closing days while looking ahead with great anticipation. As one who believes that “Life is happening for you”, I at moments feel I will literally burst as I look ahead, for I just know that wonders are unfolding. I may not yet be able to see them or know them concretely, but they are there!

“From my own experience, I want to say that you should follow your heart, and the mind will follow you. Believe in yourself, and you will create miracles.” ~Kailash Satyarthi

The deeper and more intensely I hug the “Who I Am” ( through taking action steps towards my dreams, the more I awaken to the incredible sense of awe, for life has a miraculous way of unfolding to manifest.

I am already dancing into 2018 with great jubilation, for I know it is going to be a massive year in so many ways – “how do I know”, you may ask? I just DO, it is going to be INCREDIBLE. When we start walking a life in line with our “Who I Am” and “Why”, it is like the billowing clouds line up to lead us straight into our own Shambhala. Is it an easy path? NO and YES! There are days of immense uncertainty, challenge, and questioning, where you feel like you are absolutely crazy. Then there are days where you are soaring higher than the eagles and no one can pop your balloon. The truth is, that once you walk a path in pure alignment with your authentic purposeful self, there is no turning back. The sensation of this genuine truth overwhelms and changes you forever.

“Expectancy is the atmosphere for miracles.” ~Edwin Louis Cole

Is there clarity about what is next? No Way. Matter a fact, I am often surprised by what shows up around the corner. I shake my head and chuckle, “Didn’t see that one coming” – yet, always it is exactly what it was meant to be. One of the biggest lessons is to get out of your own way, for then the magic of the universe can come into view. Gratefulness and tear inducing gratitude flow forth like a river bursting its bank. Fear threatens to rip at your sleeves, however the soothing truth that all is “perfect” in the moment, calms and disperses the beast.

Part of the New Year for me and you, my reader, shall be a change in this blog. As I stated earlier I shall be shifting the format to a “Quote Interactive” journey. I am still wanting and needing your favorite quotes, my hat of folded up quotes needs more to choose from. Send me your faves! I would also love to know why you like them, if you are brave enough to share. You can get them to me through the comment section or email me at I am looking forward to this new experience upon the page. It will challenge me in a new way, opening me up as a writer, and connecting me to my readers. I thank you in advance for your amazing gracious interaction.

“This is one of the miracles of love: It gives a power of seeing through its own enchantments and yet not being disenchanted.” ~C. S. Lewis

I don’t know how your 2017 unfolded, I hope it was full of vibrant gifts, joyful becomings, and loving grace. I humbly bow in gratitude for all the days you showed up to share time with me, I am truly touched. I can’t wait to step into all the magnificence of 2018. Happiest of New Year to you and yours!!

May you end the year and start the year being YOUR TRUTH with JOY.

Day 54, Driven by our feelings…

In the world I have grown up in, I was taught to go after goals, plan and focus around the concrete accomplishments. I was never good at this, unless it was orchestrated around a “feeling” experience that I wanted to have. If we really look at our goals, this is true of all of us at the core. Let’s peek a bit deeper at this.

Think about the very common desire to have more money. Is it really so you can hold pieces of dyed colored paper in your hand, or know that you have stacks of it in a bank somewhere? No, the desire is to have more money, so that you can do the things you want to do, buy the things you want, etc… You want the money to manifest an experience in your life that gives you a “feeling”. The joy shared on a trip with people. The sensation of feeling good in the new outfit you purchased. The enjoyment felt over a fun meal out with friends. You get the idea.

“Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge.” ~Plato

What about the goal of a degree, job, home, relationship, health??? When you dissect any goal, you will arrive at a way you want to feel. Something that you want to experience, which is emotionally based. So, what would happen if we flipped our typical teaching of focusing on a “goal” to focusing on a “feeling/desire” – how would the journey to reach that desire focused goal change? Would it become more fun along the way? Would delightful surprises show up because you were more open, joyful and present?

Some of the early teachers of this thought, Joseph Campbell, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Tony Robbins, etc.., have been trying to get the old paradigm to shift. It is funny how slowly we navigate such changes, for our traditional schooling system still focuses on the concrete, the college driven focus, with specific hoops to jump in order to succeed. What would shift in the classroom if we changed our approach to “What do you desire for your life?’, “What do you want to experience?” Versus “What do you want to have?”

“The starting point of all achievement is desire.” ~Napoleon Hill

More and more authors, coaches and speakers are sharing the philosophy of following your “bliss” to create the life you want. Bringing to the forefront that it is human nature to be driven by our feelings. We want things for the emotional sensation it gives us. I wonder if the next generation will adopt this understanding? How will that change things?

As you prepare to enjoy your New Year celebration, what do you want to feel and experience in 2018. Take a close look at your resolutions, why do you want to achieve them? I’ll bet you there is something you want to feel guiding each and everyone of those goals.

May today be a day of inner exploration, “What are my desires, what do I want to feel, what do I want to experience in living my life???”

“Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.” ~Rumi

A.C.T. (always choose truth) with connected awareness to your feelings, making decisions in your moments that serve your desire to feel a certain way, peaceful, content, happy, loving, kind…. In so doing, I wonder how your “to do” list will change with this focus?

Day 53, A path of truthful transparency…

You know how you have those poignant moments in your life when a conversation stops the clock? Time stands frozen, for what is being discussed touches a deep place, it may be painful, celebratory, life altering, a pure ah-ha, or… I was recently thinking about one of those moments in my life from years ago. I was sitting at my desk putting in wine orders for the local restaurants and small stores that I sold wine to, when a colleague in the industry came into the office. I said “Hello”, she stood there looking at me and stated very bluntly, “You don’t have any secrets do you? You live your life with your truth on full display?” I was caught off guard for a moment, since the subject matter was unexpected. I allowed her stated question to soak in, took a deep breath as I reflected on my life, “Yes, you are right, I do not have any secrets, I walk and live my truth without hiding. No skeletons in my closet.” She stood there a moment digesting my response, “I bet that feels very freeing” she stated with a faraway look in her eye. “Yes, it is.” I quietly responded.

“A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.” ~Dalai Lama

Even though I have always felt like a bit of a misfit in a world of concrete and chaos, I have always been truthful about the life I live. It is in this truthful transparency that I am free to soar, to be, to share, to dance. Allowing the vulnerable truth to open windows, heal situations, and hopefully create a new awareness. My kids have always known that when they ask a question, I am going to share my truthful answer. There have been tender moments when I have looked at them with love saying, “Are you sure you want me to answer?”, for sharing heartfelt truth is not always the easy path, it comes with challenges, pain, change, as well as joy, celebration, and love.

“In the process of telling the truth about what you feel or what you see, each of us has to get in touch with himself or herself in a really deep, serious way.” ~June Jordan

The most amazing gift of walking a path of truthful transparency is the peace I experience when I look in my mirror at night before bed – there in the reflection I stand. I look deep into my eyes and I know the truth from that day. I reflect, have I walked it with love, compassion, trust, faith and done my best to be in service no matter what I am doing? Have I loved and cared for myself along the way, so I have only more to give and share? Did I share kindness in all my actions? In this closing moment of truth, before I lay my head and body to rest, I get to be truthful with the most important person in my life, me. It is my time to celebrate, be grateful, forgive, and breathe into the grace of the day I was blessed to live.

“The truth is: Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.” ~Brene Brown

I have never understood secrets or pretending. They seem to lead to a trail of tribulations, fear, struggle and ultimately a sense of loss. I sit here and think what spacious-ness I feel within, for I am willing to share a truthful answer to any question I am asked. I humbly know I have made mistakes, I have learned life lessons the hard way, I have an eclectic history, a colorful memory book, it is all a part of my thus far woven tapestry. I am grateful for each thread in that tapestry, no matter its color or texture. I wish for all people to dance a life of truthful freedom, for it allows you to be present, open, humble, and real.

“I find that when you open the door toward openness and transparency, a lot of people will follow you through.” ~Kirsten Gillibrand

As you prepare to embark on a New Year, may it be the year of free flying truth. Transparent and present with all that unfolds and becomes. A.C.T. (always choose truth) with loving awareness of your truth, while being open to the truth of others, who knows what miracles will unfold with such a journey.

Day 52, Change…

During this week between Christmas and New Years, many people dig into thinking about what things they want to Change in the New Year. It’s the time to say goodbye to one year and welcome in a brand new fresh one. No matter what your age or walk of life, there is something hopeful with the thought of a New Year.

I know I certainly have been exploring what adventures I would like to experience in 2018. What behaviors, patterns, and limiting beliefs do I want to shift and change? 2017 was a huge year for me, full of diverse experiences, changes, lessons, opportunities and the delight of coming home to “Who I Am” with a new vigor, love and passion.

“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” ~Seneca

It seems to be an intrinsic part of our human nature to want “Change” to happen over night. “Can we please have the big miracle, the magic shift now.” Yet, in my life experience I have gradually learned that the profound changes come with consistent small steps, fueled by determined faith, touched with an essence of surrender, a whisper of patience and a powerful punch of vulnerable passion.

As I share in my workshops and classes, it is like building a new muscle, it takes time, patience, practice, and not giving up. The gift to love yourself enough to take daily action steps, some days they are little, while other days you leap with courage. When changing an ingrained pattern, especially one that has existed since childhood, it requires an awareness of the behavior,  a vision of how you wish to Change it, then it is the daily action steps you are willing to take to wire a New Way of Being? So often, we are creatures of habit, while many of those daily rituals serve us, there are of course several that do not. Or maybe they helped you to survive and get to here, but Now they no longer serve you, they hinder you.

“For a true writer, each book should be a new beginning where he tries again for something that is beyond attainment. He should always try for something that has never been done or that others have tried and failed. Then sometimes, with great luck, he will succeed.” ~Ernest Hemingway

Change is a multi-layered process, especially when we are stepping in a new direction and or way of being. There are a plethora of integral tendrils clinging to the old way, bit by bit through new ways of being we pull back a tendril to release it. As we free ourselves from the old, we gradually build up new synopsis connections to manifest the New Way of being – creating the Change we seek. It is a rewiring of the brain and body, here is one of my favorite people who is conducting profound research in this arena, I hope you find it as fascinating and exciting as I do – (Dr. Joe Dispenza).

As we near the close of 2017 and move towards the beginning of 2018, I ask you, what do you desire to Change? What are you willing to do to create that Change? Are you going to give up in the first 30 days, as statistics show most people do? Or are you going to step daily with determined, loving, patient, consistent action? As always the Choice is yours…. Remember the journey does not have to be one you do alone, invite others to help, support, encourage and hold you accountable.

“It’s a wise man who understands that every day is a new beginning, because boy, how many mistakes do you make in a day? I don’t know about you, but I make plenty. You can’t turn the clock back, so you have to look ahead.” ~Mel Gibson

As you go forth today, reach deep inside to ask the questions, “Am I living the life I dream of? Do I wake up with joy for what I get to create and experience each day?” There is that old saying which is powerfully true, “If not NOW, then When???” A.C.T. (always choose truth) with a knowing that you can manifest what you desire and dream of…

Day 51, A Day Of Grace…

I look out on a snowy winter wonderland on this Christmas Day in my part of the world. It is still and quiet as I look out my window at the bare trees decorated with their snowflake ornaments. Very happy dogs frolic merrily on the nature path across the pond, they do not care what day it is, for a walk with their human is the best present ever, a gift they celebrate with such wild glee every time they go out.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

I sit here and ponder, what is the most precious gift to me, what is the present I celebrate everyday, for I live such a blessed, beautiful, gracious life. Each day awes me with its celebrated rituals and delightful surprises. What do I wish for all people, no matter their walk of life or where they live? It is an easy answer for me, I wish for all people to be celebrating their moments living presently, free of judgment, unconditionally loving and being loved, connecting with joy to those around them, whether family, friend, or stranger. It is in the precious sweet connections in life that the memories are made. When we open our hearts and souls to others without our mind trained judgments, the world truly expands with grace. To judge, is to put up a wall, limiting not only our own expansion, but that of another as well. Today, may it be a day where you free yourself and all others of such harmful action, today may we open our hearts to the truth that we can never truly understand or know another’s path.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

On this day and every day, may we choose to celebrate the grace and magnificence that this life offers. Today and every tomorrow may we embrace this way of being: (

“Ethic of Reciprocity” passages from various religions: Bahá’í Faith to Taoism: 

Bahá’í Faith

“Ascribe not to any soul that which thou wouldst not have ascribed to thee, and say not that which thou doest not.” “Blessed is he who preferreth his brother before himself.” Baha’u’llah

“And if thine eyes be turned towards justice, choose thou for thy neighbour that which thou choosest for thyself.” Epistle to the Son of the Wolf. 1

• Brahmanism:

“This is the sum of Dharma [duty]: Do naught unto others which would cause you pain if done to you”. Mahabharata, 5:1517 ”


“…a state that is not pleasing or delightful to me, how could I inflict that upon another?” Samyutta NIkaya v. 353

Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.” Udana-Varga 5:18

“All men tremble at the rod, all men fear death:
Putting oneself in the place of others, kill not nor cause to kill.
All men tremble at the rod, unto all men life is dear;
Doing as one would be done by, kill not nor cause to kill.”

“One should seek for others the happiness one desires for oneself.”


“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” Matthew 7:12, King James Version.

“And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” Luke 6:31, King James Version.

“…and don’t do what you hate…”, Gospel of Thomas 6. The Gospel of Thomas is one of about 40 gospels that circulated among the early Christian movement, but which never made it into the Christian Scriptures (New Testament).


He appears to have been the first person to record the Golden Rule in its negative form. This is sometimes referred to as the “Silver Rule.”

Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you” Doctrine of the Mean

“What I do not wish men to do to me, I also wish not to do to men.” Analects 15:23

What a man dislikes in those who are over him, let him not display toward those who are under him; what he dislikes in those who are under him, let him not display toward those who are over him! This is called the standard, by which, as a measuring square, to regulate one’s conduct. 6

Tse-kung asked, ‘Is there one word that can serve as a principle of conduct for life?’ Confucius replied, ‘It is the word ‘shu’ — reciprocity. Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.'” Doctrine of the Mean 13.3

He also expressed the Golden Rule in its positive form:

“Try your best to treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself, and you will find that this is the shortest way to benevolence.” Mencius VII.A.4

“There are four things in the moral life of man, not one of which I have been able to carry out in my life. To serve my father as I would
expect my son to serve me: that I have not been able to do. To serve my sovereign as I would expect a minister under me to serve me:
that I have not been able to do. To act towards my elder brother, as I would expect my younger brother to act towards me: that I have
not been able to do. To be the first to behave toward friends as I would expect them to behave towards me: that I have not been able
to do. 

Ancient Egyptian:

“Do for one who may do for you, that you may cause him thus to do.” The Tale of the Eloquent Peasant, 109 – 110 Translated by R.B. Parkinson. The original dates to circa 1800 BCE and may be the earliest version of the Epic of Reciprocity ever written. 2


“This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain if done to you.” Mahabharata 5:1517

The religion of the Incas:

“Do not to another what you would not yourself experience.” Manco Capoc, founder of the empire of Peru. 6


“None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself.” Number 13 of Imam “Al-Nawawi’s Forty Hadiths.” 3

Hadiths are writings by Muhammad. There do not appear to be any verses in the Qur’an that explicitly state the Golden Rule.


“Therefore, neither does he [a sage] cause violence to others nor does he make others do so.” Acarangasutra 5.101-2.

“In happiness and suffering, in joy and grief, we should regard all creatures as we regard our own self.” Lord Mahavira, 24th Tirthankara

A man should wander about treating all creatures as he himself would be treated. “Sutrakritanga 1.11.33


“…thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”, Hebrew Scriptures (a.k.a. Old Testament) Leviticus 19:18

“What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man. This is the law: all the rest is commentary.” Talmud, Shabbat 31a.

“And what you hate, do not do to any one.” Tobit 4:15 4

Native American Spirituality:

“Respect for all life is the foundation.” The Great Law of Peace.

“All things are our relatives; what we do to everything, we do to ourselves. All is really One.” Black Elk

“Do not wrong or hate your neighbor. For it is not he who you wrong, but yourself.” Pima proverb.

Roman Pagan Religion: Religio Romana is a modern-day Neo-pagan religion based on the religion of ancient Rome:

“The law imprinted on the hearts of all men is to love the members of society as themselves.”

Satanism: Unlike the names of other religions, the term “Satanism” has many meanings. Some refer to groups that are non-existent. The Satanic Temple has elements of the Golden Rule divided among three of its Seven Tenets:

#1. “Strive to act with compassion and empathy toward all creatures in accordance with reason.”

#4. “The freedoms of others should be respected, including the freedom to offend. To willfully and unjustly encroach upon the freedoms of another is to forgo your own.”

#7. “Every tenet is a guiding principle designed to inspire nobility in action and thought. The spirit of compassion, wisdom, and justice should always prevail over the written or spoken word.” 5


“The heart of the person before you is a mirror. See there your own form” Munetada Kurozumi

“Be charitable to all beings, love is the representative of God.” Ko-ji-ki Hachiman Kasuga


“Compassion-mercy and religion are the support of the entire world”. Japji Sahib

“Don’t create enmity with anyone as God is within everyone.” Guru Arjan Devji 259

“No one is my enemy, none a stranger and everyone is my friend.” Guru Arjan Dev : AG 1299

• Sufism, the inner mystical dimension of Islam:

“The basis of Sufism is consideration of the hearts and feelings of others. If you haven’t the will to gladden someone’s heart, then at least beware lest you hurt someone’s heart, for on our path, no sin exists but this.” Dr. Javad Nurbakhsh, Master of the Nimatullahi Sufi Order.


“Regard your neighbor’s gain as your gain, and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss.” Tai Shang Kan Yin P’ien

To those who are good to me, I am good; to those who are not good to me, I am also good. Thus all get to be good.”

“The sage has no interest of his own, but takes the interests of the people as his own. He is kind to the kind; he is also kind to the unkind: for Virtue is kind. He is faithful to the faithful; he is also faithful to the unfaithful: for Virtue is faithful.” Tao Teh Ching, Chapter 49.

• Unitarian Universalism (referred to as Unitarianism in some countries):

“The inherent worth and dignity of every person;”

“Justice, equity and compassion in human relations…. ”

“The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all;”

“We affirm and promote respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.” Unitarian principles. 1,2

• Wicca: A modern Neo-pagan religion derived largely from Celtic sources. Their Wiccan Rede states: 

“An it harm no one, do what thou wilt” (i.e. do what ever you will, as long as it harms nobody, including yourself). This is called the Wiccan Rede 

• Yoruba: (Nigeria):

One going to take a pointed stick to pinch a baby bird should first try it on himself to feel how it hurts.”

• Zoroastrianism:

“That nature alone is good which refrains from doing to another whatsoever is not good for itself.” Dadisten-I-dinik, 94:5

“Whatever is disagreeable to yourself do not do unto others.” Shayast-na-Shayast 13:29

Some philosophers’ statements are:

• Socrates: “Do not do to others that which would anger you if others did it to you.” (Greece; 5th century BCE).

• Plato: “May I do to others as I would that they should do unto me.” (Greece; 4th century BCE)

• Aristotle: “We should behave towards friends, as we would wish friends to behave towards us.” (This is a restricted version of the golden rule limited only towards friends. (Greece; 4th century BCE).

• Seneca, a Roman Stoic philosopher: “Treat your inferiors as you would be treated by your superiors,” Epistle to Lucilius 47:11 (Rome; 1st century CE)

• Epictetus: “What you would avoid suffering yourself, seek not to impose on others.” (Turkey, Rome, Greece; circa 100 CE)

• Thomas Hobbs: (England; 17th century CE)

“Do not that to another which thou wouldst not have done to thyself.”

“When any one questions whether what he plans to do to another will be done in accordance with the law of nature or not, let him imagine himself in the other man’s place.”

• Kant: “Act as if the maxim of thy action were to become by thy will a universal law of nature.” (Germany; 18th century CE)

• John Stuart Mill: “To do as you would be done by, and to love your neighbor as yourself, constitute the ideal perfection of utilitarian morality.” (Britain; 19th century CE)

Who knows, maybe like the “Grinch”, all our hearts shall expand on this day, so every tomorrow is richer and more humbly full of true grace. (

“Where there is love there is life.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

I wish for all a very special December 25th, 2017. Soon we shall all say good bye to 2017 and welcome in the New Year of 2018. May each day expand the gratitude for that which is… A.C.T. (always choose truth) with accepting open love today, then celebrate in the miracles it creates.