As you read that title, what is your first response?
What do you hear your mind say the second you read it?
Yeah, sure you hear me!
No you don’t! No one really listens anymore.
I don’t really share, so how can you hear me.
Have you ever noticed how quickly you start to think about what you are going to say to someone who is talking to you? There you stand formulating in your mind what you can say back. What’s the perfect thing to respond? When you do this, are you truly listening, sincerely hearing the person you are with?
If you are a parent, do you really listen to your child, no matter the age, to HEAR what they are sharing? Not just the words they speak, but the body language, the message sent from their eyes, tone, word choice, etc…
What about how you listen to a colleague, spouse/partner, friend, family member, stranger..? Do you listen differently depending on who is talking?
Have you ever noticed how much attention you will give to someone “important and powerful” by societal and cultural standards – yet when your child, friend, family member or co-worker share you only half way tune in? I observe this all the time.
Do you think you fool anyone with regard to your HEARING and Listening skills? People, especially the young and wise elders, KNOW when you are really listening or not. Just watch a baby who has a present or distracted parent. Observe your friend when you really sit and pay attention to their story versus being fidgety to battle for conversation rights. There is an intuitive knowing when someone is truly LISTENING and HEARING YOU.
I have watched and observed this for years and years. Noticing within my own behavior the expansion of my ability to truly HEAR. As I have gotten older and wiser, my ability to HEAR and LISTEN has increased, enriching my life in so many ways.
When I worked in a nursing home, daycare, restaurant, sales rep., customer service specialist, ropes course facilitator and classroom teacher – HEARING was key. Active, Present Listening enriched, expanded and opened all of these professions into glorious opportunities for co-learning and co-growing through genuine heartfelt sharing.
We all crave a safe place to share. The desire to be truly heard is as powerful as the desire to be seen. In the chaos and busyness it is often a challenge to get people to drop into TRUE sharing, however, I have learned that BEing completely present, making eye contact with sincerity and truly Listening opens the flood gates for powerful connection.
I strongly believe that one of the most important gifts I can give myself and others is to HEAR. To Listen with intense complete presence, shutting off my mind chatter. I absolutely LOVE the connection experienced when I truly listen – WOW.., it is intensely powerful. Full of surprises and new understandings.
What if today, you challenged yourself to slow down and really HEAR? What might you learn about your partner/spouse, friend, child, co-worker, etc..? How might you feel as you allow this true connection? What might you learn about yourself and others? Below are a couple of articles that briefly discuss Listening, I thought you might enjoy them.
BEing your truth is an inside job. YOU get to let go of the taught critic who judges you from perspectives based on societal and culturally expectations and taught “Domestication”.
When you entered this world and were very young, you did not sit in front of the mirror criticizing yourself – YOU loved looking in the mirror, because it was fun to see YOU in action. Where did that self-love and appreciation go? When did YOU start accepting what others said about you, comparing yourself to the images on TV, in movies, magazines, giving all your power to those outside of you.
To love life, be at peace, experience joy and find true contentment – YOU must come home to Seeing YOU with eyes of love, acceptance, gratitude and sincere appreciation. Genuine Self-love is the gateway back home to the Walking Naked Truth of YOU. The gateway to child-like joy, innocence, curiosity, playfulness and complete acceptance.
This will require you to let go, unwire and unplug the cultural dogma and societal bombardments. To practice every day LOVING YOU fully until it becomes a way of BEing. YOU are a unique BEing, no one else can be YOU. There is only ONE YOU on this planet, a special combination based upon your individual life journey. YOU are an Exclusive, Exemplary soul, here to share the gifts, presence and way of BEing that only YOU can share. Isn’t it time for YOU to SEE the true YOU? Isn’t it time to Celebrate the Amazing person YOU are? Today is the invitation to do exactly that!!
Today’s Affirmation:(fill in the blanks)
I am a(n) ____________________ (loving, amazing, incredible, beautiful, handsome, etc…) BEing. I love how I share and show up in this world, offering _________________ (kindness, love, joy, etc…). It is FUN BEing ME!
Today’s Walking Naked Truth practice:( I encourage you to do this everyday, until you come back home to your childlike self-love)
Every time you see yourself in the mirror, stop and say 3 or more positive things to yourself about YOU – truly mean them.
Make a list of all the ways you amazingly show up in the world.
Before you go to bed look in the mirror and share genuinely with love at least 3 ways you showed up for yourself and others today.
The one thing that is for sure, change occurs. It is a part of everything. Everyday there is change. Seasons, aging, growing, learning, experiencing, building, expansion… If we embrace this truth, we free ourselves to enjoy, relax and let go of the need to control.
If you are a parent, would you ever wish to stop your child’s expansion into adulthood? As a child once yourself, would you have wanted your parents to control your becoming? From birth we are changing. We can fight it or embrace it with joy, knowing it is a part of life.
As I look in the mirror seeing the gray hair, the smile lines, the change in my skin, teeth, body, I am at choice to LOVE what I see, celebrating the grace and gifts of aging – or – I can fight it, hide it, color and mask it. Why? Who do I deceive in this denial?
I personally love watching the seasons flow. Each season has such unique expressions. There is continual change from one day to the next. The ducklings become adult ducks. The leaves and blossoms arrive to cycle into death and back again. Even in places where the seasons do not shift, there is change, nature is perpetually morphing.
Today what if you accepted the Truth that life is full of Change? What if you not only embraced this reality, you actually chose to celebrate it. How would such a shift impact your life? Would you stop worrying, stop trying to control, relax and allow?
People change, thus relationships change… Jobs shift and adapt to what comes next… Everyone exists on the timeline of life, aging is a part of the journey… Your life adventure infuses you with new understandings, growth, discoveries, lessons and glorious experiences – how fun to embrace with Truthful knowing that you are Changed by all of it.
I am one who embraces change with curiosity, openness, trust and faith. As I flow with Change, I am free.
Today’s Walking Naked Truth Practice:
Today notice your reactions to change. As you notice, decide if you want to react like a victim or celebrate with trust.
Begin to become aware of how “fighting change” has impacted your life.
If one was to look through the lens of the artist, what would the canvases of your life look like? Would they express and share your truth? Or would they be a mirage, a glorified fantasy to make others feel comfortable?
Let’s get sincerely truthful here – YOU are the Artist of your life.
Each and every day YOU put the colors upon your fresh canvas. YOU hold the magic paintbrush that allows others to be a part of the scene or not. YOU elect what will imbue with infiniteness upon the canvas, or smudge off to disappear.
I am daily amazed at how many people choose to carry around a multitude of canvases, sharing with others the stories that burden, limit, and hinder their life. They allow the paints of blame and shame to smear onto the new canvas, creating again the lines you think you must color within.
What if today YOU allowed yourself to see the canvas as clear and clean of all past debris? What if YOU chose to get out all the colors? Then, what if YOU selected what would be on the canvas and what would not?
Can YOU BE your TRUTH upon the canvas? Can YOU allow yourself to explore the exquisite artist palette of life, free of worry, fear, denial, judgment, criticism and expectation? Can YOU allow yourself to be passionately creative?
I invite you to imagine, what would your unique vibrant TRUTH look like upon the free space of your life canvas. Today’s canvas is only here once. Yesterday’s canvas is complete. Tomorrows has yet to arrive. Only today in all your sweet moments can the rich hues, colors, depth and expression present itself. At the end of the day, you will lay your paintbrush down to rest, clearing it of all residue, so it is fresh for a new day.
YOU are the Artist of your life. I challenge you with a joyful smile to paint your TRUTH. To express upon your canvas today the raw, vulnerable, real you – from inside out.
What will the Art Gallery of YOUR life look like….?
I am freely and joyfully the artist of my life, expressing with truth, love and passion upon the canvas of my life.
Today’s Walking Naked Truth Practice:
Today carry with you a piece of paper where you write down the things you experience and feel that you want to paint on your canvas. Be clear with the TRUTH that you have CHOICE, do not put down things that you do not wish to perpetuate or put into more permanent existence.
Play with this, maybe you cover the page with words, little images, perhaps you jot down feelings, whatever will help you to remember what shall be painted on your unique canvas for this day.
At the end of the day look at your paper canvas – absorb the awareness that YOU are the Artist. YOU have Choice as to what goes onto your artistic expression of life.
My sincere apologies for not posting in awhile. I took my BEingness on a little road trip with my daughter to share time with my sister (visiting from Turkey) and my mom (visiting from Virginia). During this precious connection time, I allowed myself the grace to BE completely present.
The thirteen hour drive there and back gave me time to reflect, explore and ponder what I felt truly served this space. What do I wish to share, why and how? What best serves those who take the time to come to the page? What does the world need? What do I offer?
When you allow yourself the grace to BE completely present, all pressure washes away. It is a glorious space, for it opens up an awareness to the suspension of time. I personally find myself observing the chaotic buzz which goes on around. People racing here, there, everywhere. Supposedly on a mission to “Do this or that”, to get things done, to make money, to accomplish tasks, to…. It’s like standing in the center of a beehive watching it all come an go with such ferocious intensity.
I enjoy this space for it offers me perspective, reminds me of what is important and pushes me to let go. Like a dog who has the amazing ability to always be present, I joyfully soak in the moments with loving gratitude.
The time away allowed me the opportunity to observe people in their busy world, to investigate how I might serve them more to BE. Sharing the “stopped moment in time” when they honor themselves. The gentle reminder that a deep breath in complete presence shifts everything.
From my place of observation I felt ideas circulating and stirring. Following some quiet meditation time and journaling a new format for sharing with you birthed itself. I am excited to create this new offering and experience.
It shall honor your busy schedule, while offering the gift to slow down for just a little bit, to care for the self. I humbly thank you for your patience as I revamp this blog to serve more sincerely the needs I hear from you.
May you gift yourself today with an awareness for how amazing you truly are, breathing in the magnificence of BEing alive to experience all that is. May your heart expand into the pure grace of BEing Enough Always….
The other day someone asked for clarification, “What does BEingness feel like? How will I know that I am in that space?” Great question!
Just like everything in life, the sensation, feeling, and experience of something is individualistic. Each person comes with their own unique wiring, life journey and delightful matrix blend.
So, I can only describe BEingness from my perspective.
BEingness for me is:
A sensation of infinite expansiveness where love vibrates continuously.
A suspension of time, as though everything slows downs, comes to a standstill, allowing me to center.
A rising sensation of joy, bringing a natural smile to my face and a releasing of all man-made burdens.
A feeling of BEing quietly in the flow of all that is, no separation, no judgment, no DO, just BE.
An inner knowing that everything is working out, that all is happening for me.
A space free of ALL doubt, fear, loss, hurt, worry, judgment, criticism.
A luscious space where you just know that life is a dance, a gift, a way to explore more.
A sensation that knows anything is possible.
It is a vibrational energy that frees me to hear and make decisions from a place of love, creativity, passion and joy.
Ultimately an indescribable space that is difficult to articulate, yet I dream of everyone experiencing its pure freedom and grace.
How do I know I am in that space?:
I am free of Reactionary behavior.
I do NOT feel worry, fear, doubt, judgment, criticism or that I HAVE to DO something, for I am already Enough, Worthy and Perfect as I AM..
I feel relaxed, joyful, peaceful and content.
The outside world does not impact me, I can view the chaos, hear the negativity, yet I do not react.
Time disappears, for I am in a flow of creativity and sharing.
I am not bothered by people’s choices to suffer, play victim, stay stuck, I instead vibrate in an infinite space of love, forgiveness and grace.
There is a deep stillness within, no matter what is going on around me.
BEingness is a sensation, space, way of BEing that I wish for everyone. It frees up the monkey mind to relax back into a knowing that all is working out.
Check out the The Beingness Project for some ways to begin the journey home to BEingness. Start a simple meditation practice, to open yourself to more. Below is a simple guided meditation I created for you.
May today be a day of flowing love, grace, peace and joy for you….
Today at The BEingness Project I begin to explore the simple awareness of BEingness in everyday life. Noticing how we interact and react in our daily interactions can shift everything. Small daily practices can move you out of a Reactionary life and into a life of BEingness – a life of Choice.
Yesterday I posted a very full Vlog on The Beingness Project; it reflected and explored the last 2 months. I invite you to take a peek, it has some fun offerings for your spirit, body and mind.
I find great humor everyday in how people “Want it NOW”with regard to peace of mind, joyful living, healthy body, financial security, successful relationship, etc… Yet they are not willing to look at their present moment. Each moment compounds upon the next, so the daily choice of how we are BEing in our moments affects and compounds to create the life we live.
If you have been building up the Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Unhealthy Body, and Victim muscle for years, YOU will have to focus on Making Different Choices moment by moment. In time you will shift from the Old Stories to a new space of BEingness. Now here is a powerful truth – it could ALL change NOW – however that means you are going to have to CHOOSE to BE NOW and NOW and NOW and… you get the idea. So, it is likely not going to happen overnight, for you have been practicing how NOT to BE for most of your life. When you were a young baby and child you intrinsically knew how to BE – you exuded joy, love, playfulness and BEing present.
Today in The Beingness Project I posted a brief sharing on “Why BEingness” – looking at statistics regarding our expanding chaotic world. I am completely perplexed sometimes on why people Choose to live such stressful Reactionary lives. There is a Choice! Why would one not wish for a more peaceful, joyful, loving, vibrant life. I know we are taught it is outside of us – yet every religion and spiritual teaching informs us – it is INSIDE of US.
Can you gift yourself this week with some daily choice to honor your BEingness?
Can you give yourself the time to BE, feeling your inner truth?
Can you STOP Reacting and Start BEing one moment at a time?
In today’s BEingness Project Vlog, I list some ways you can begin to shift into BEing. Below is a simple meditation to help you get started.
I invite you to comment, message or email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) with your daily struggles. Let’s explore together how we can shift from Reaction to BEing – seeing how BEingness applies to daily situations, helps to unravel the stress, worry, fear and chaos. I am excited to share how wonderful BEingness feels.
Thank you for joining me today. May all your moments flow with grace… Fawn
Do you ever feel like you are constantly climbing the mountain of life?
Do you find yourself just craving a day where you do nothing?
Are you tired, stressed and wondering where the joy of life went?
I have often had moments where I felt each and everyone one of the above emotions. Wondering how I might eek out another minute in the day, just so I can get one more thing off my “To-do” list.
Thankfully over the years, I have learned the power of letting go. The peace experienced through Surrendered knowing that life is unfolding and becoming perfectly. I have played a game to see which way of life actually manifests and creates more.
The go, go, go, do, do, do way of life I was Domesticated and taught to live.
The Surrender with trust, while taking action steps towards my desires.
While I know from experience which works and feels better, I sometimes still fall back into the negative behavior of trying to force life to become, creating much stress and frustration.
Without a doubt, when I relax, to let go of “how it has to look and when it must happen”, everything just falls into place. Giving me the powerful reminder of how it feels to enjoy the evolution of life through Surrendered action.
When we constrict our body, mind and spirit through stress, worry, fear and struggle, there is no space for creative ideas. Answers struggle to surface in such turbulence. It has been my experience that when we make decisions or take action while in a stressful negative space, they do not tend to work out.
I have learned the hard way to not make decisions when I am in a stressed, fearful or worried space. Sometimes this is very challenging, for the ingrained teachings and judgments run deep. However, by simply slowing down, practicing NBC (Notice, Breathe, Choose), and giving myself space, the answer I seek arrives with great ease.
When I am wise enough to trust and relax into Surrender the path lights up with such clarity. It makes me smile and giggle at how easy it can truly be. I wish for every person this visceral experience, for it is so freeing and empowering. In a world being crippled by the impacts of stress, it may be time for us all to learn the fine art of Surrender.