What an amazing week it has been to explore our Expectations. Now it is time to decide for yourself which Expectations serve you, creating more in your life and which ones burden you, limiting your growth and joy?
Life is a constant journey of becoming. If we notice, breathe into our personal awareness and then choose for OURSELVES we start to travel down the path that is uniquely our own.
On this final day of exploring “Our Emotions” before we move into Expectations, I wanted to offer and recap some of this last weeks offerings. I share the video from “The Beingness Project” Vlog as a reminder that all we have to do is BE. In the chaotic world of today we have grown detached from our inner truth, racing from one “To Do” thing to the next, barely breathing, as we march through life without knowing what we truly feel. The ironic twist of it all, is that we are ultimately driven by “What We WANT to FEEL”, so why do we run from that which we seek, a Domesticated Paradox.
Answer these questions from the heart:
Why are you working so hard?
What do you want to achieve? Why?
Why do you want a lot of money?
Why do you want to have nice things?
Once you have everything you “want” – what then?
Why do you seek love?
What does a nice home and possessions give you?
Why do you desire to travel?
If you really answer the above questions, you will discover that at the root of them ALL, is the desire to “FEEL” a certain emotion. Such as, freedomfelt through financial abundance. Acceptance and a feeling of being chosen, when we are loved. Pridewith a sensation of successwhen we achieve a certain status. Joy, connection, and curious wonderas we travel to new places and meet new people. Peace, contentmentand an inner sense of feeling safewhen we relax within the comforts of our own home. You get the idea…
When we accept the truth that we are driven by the DESIRE to feel a certain way, we open up to the true power of our human spirit. If we first embrace the emotion we wish to experience, the rest will start to become. We must first feel joy within ourselves, to then truly experience it. Freedom is evoked from our own heart and soul, someone does not give you freedom. Peace does not reside outside ourselves, it comes from within. All that we seek exists inside us, once we Choose to own and BE in our desired emotions, our life experience begins to unfold for us.
It gets back to the simple practice of Noticing what you are feeling, Breathing deeply and Choosing what you desire to feel. Then BE it.
A strange title for sure, however I hope it made you curious to read more, for I want to share a game that may help to change your life.
Have you ever wanted to do something, but fear got in your way?
Do you have a dream for the kind of life you want to live, but you’re too afraid to go for it?
When you look back on your life do you wish you had taken more chances? Have regrets?
Are you ready to stop letting FEAR rule your life? If so let’s undertake this project together.
A Box of FEAR!!
Find a box, or container of some sort that you can decorate with inspiration. If you prefer your container to be on the computer, then create a space where you can place words or phrases.
Cut up some paper to write words, sentences or descriptions. If on the computer skip this step.
Now think of one thing in your life that you have wanted to do or say, but FEAR has kept you stuck.
As you think of this thing/sharing explore what you fear (See example below), identify the specific fear, write it down.
Now, look at the specific fear you wrote down, really see it. Take a deep long breath, honoring that fear – then tell it in your own words, “You no longer control me”- place the fear in the container/box.
As you place it in the box/container you are letting it go.
In place of the fear choose a word that is empowering, often the opposite of the fear.
Then CHOOSE one action step that you will take towards what you want to do/create/share.
Write this action step down on a piece of paper or computer. Put it where you see it many times throughout the day.
Take your action step!! (This does not have to be a big step, many little steps lead to the same destination)
I was terrified to send my first article off for publication to a magazine. As I looked at the fear it was based in “fear of rejection”. I gave “rejection” over to the Box of Fear and in its place I chose “Acceptance” with the action step of sending off the article. As a side note, it did get published :-).
I was scared to go back to college full time in my forties as a single mom with two young children and no car. My base fear was “fear of failure”. I let go of this fear, placing it in the box. In its place I chose “Courage” and “I am ENOUGH”. My action step, enroll, apply for financial aid and start back full time. Find a job on campus and get good at riding my bike. I completed my Bachelors degree.
Use this process to discover that you are brave enough, you are courageous, you are worthy, you can do it!!
Once you have built up your muscle of self-worth and self-love, you will no longer need “The Box of Fear”. Fear does not go away if you are living a dynamic passionate life, however it will have no control or limiting impact.
Fear is the grand gift that can propel you into the direction of your heart’s desire.
I find there are days or periods of time when I feel detached, as though I observe the world from a distance. I observe the hustle and bustle, feel the chaos and sense immense anticipation. I identify this emotion for me as an almost vast nothingness. I am not sad or happy, frustrated or free, just in a suspended weightlessness. I embrace that all is in process and transforming.
Like all emotions, the sensation of “nothingness” shifts. If I allow myself to feel all the nuances and subtleties, I discover that it is actually a very fine space to BE. It unfolds for me the wisdom of patience, faith and surrender. Learning that I do not need to change it, force it to be something else, deny it, or stuff it away.
In the past I have even cancelled plans to cuddle up with this emotional sensation, for I know on the other side of it I will awaken to a sweeter depth of BEING. It is an opportunity to love that which is and thus allow life to become and unfold. So often we force change, demand instant gratification, running from the awkward discomfort of not knowing.
Today is one of those days for me. I take a nice long inhale, hold it, and smile softly as I gently exhale, for I know that much is happening for me that I cannot see. Some would call this blind faith, others I suppose would see it as stupidity. I see and feel it as surrendered trust, the ultimate faith that all is unfolding and becoming exactly as it is meant to BE.
Do you ever have moments of unknown, unidentifiable emotion? Have you allowed them to BE, or forced yourself into a new emotion?
Today, I invite you to celebrate and BE in whatever emotions you are graced to experience. Allow the flow to unfurl, swirl, and dance. I encourage you to welcome the feeling of “nothing”, for it can open up some of the most amazing Ah-Ha discoveries.
This weeks exploration of “Being In Our Emotions”at The Beingness Project, delves into the truth that as humans we are emotional. What I hear and see is people denying their emotions, stuffing them away, pretending that all is “good” or “fine”, while underneath the surface diverse emotions are circulating.
As we discussed last week in our Domestication exploration we are taught to ignore our emotions, shut them away behind the exterior wall of our “everything is good” going through the motions existence. Thus we manifest a life of Reaction versus Choice.
I don’t know about you, but I can honestly say I prefer a life of Choice. A life where I honor and love who I AM in all my moments. In our crazy, chaotic world, this may require some attention, definitely awareness to YOUR Truth.
Today I challenge and invite you to BE! Explore how freeing it is to recognize your emotions as they show up. Notice how beautifully they flow, when allowed to be. As soon as you feel into them, you will experience them shifting, releasing their intensity to move you into what comes next. This genuine way of BEING YOU, will open you up to the grandeur of an expansive life. A life full of texture, grace, adventure, creativity, connection, and pure JOY in BEING.
The Simple Steps to Be in Your Emotions:
Notice and welcome them.
Breathe deeply into all the sensations.
Feel the layers with gratitude, for even the “negative” emotions have powerful gifts.
Thank them for the opportunity to experience BEING alive to feel!
Today I wish to chat about the most powerful force we have to change any given moment – BREATHING…. Yes, the simple physical process that keeps us alive can also transform.
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to breathe when you are angry? Or how at night your body actually relaxes as you take in slower, deeper breaths?
Have you ever taken the time to notice how the people around you breathe? It is an interesting game to play. Today while you are out and about with others, notice their breath. Is it deep and slow, shallow and fast? Is there a connection to how they are moving, what they are doing?
It’s been my experience that people who are anxious, worried, angry, frustrated, etc.., breathe in shallow, choppy breaths. Their body’s are tight and their movements are rigid and hurried.
When I observe a person who seems at peace, happy, content, calm, etc.., I see deeper breaths with slower relaxed body movements.
Try this for yourself – as you go through your day, stop and breathe deeply and slowly. Hold the breath between the inhale and exhale for a few short seconds and then release very slowly. If you do this during a moment of frustration, you will experience the opportunity to shift, to let go, to release and choose to BE.
Today let’s dig a wee bit deeper into the exploration of quiet, Being, and listening. If we stay in a distracted, busy, DO mode, it is impossible for our heart song, our inner passions and desires to surface. They struggle against the onslaught of energy that pings against you like a ping pong on steroids.
Breathe deeply and slowly…
Quiet the inner voice (I know this can be hard, however it gets easier with practice)…
Aren’t you curious to hear what might bubble forth from within you? Don’t you want to hear your inner truth? What is your song…?
Taking the time in our busy world to quiet ourselves, feel, and just BE is a growing challenge. However, it is one of the most precious gifts you can grace yourself and others with. In that quiet still space you can feel your heart, hear your breathing and feel the layers of your own presence.
We are taught to DO, to be busy, to accomplish, to go after goals, to manifest, the list goes on and on… While all that is wonderful and it can help you to achieve, it can also clutter your ability to hear your true heart desires. If you do not listen to your inner calling, the day may come when you lie upon the bed of regret – looking back and knowing it is too late.
This week as we explore “Domestication” it is key to sit in the quietness of your own Beingness, to give space for YOUR TRUTH to surface. As you grace yourself with this gift you will hear and know what works in your life and what does not.
Sit with yourself quietly. Start with five minutes, then ten, and before you know it you will build it up to twenty minutes – a rejuvenation of the spirit. It will open up the space for your creative, vibrant, joyful, peaceful and loving self to awaken.
In the near future, I will joyfully be sharing my guided meditations. They will gift you with an opportunity to drift off into your “Being” energy and space. Today if you would like to offer yourself a sampling of this meditation experience, please join us at The Beingness Project.
Until we meet again, honor yourself to just BE, then be amazed by what bubbles up.