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To DO without BEING is to deny yourself Love, Peace and Joy! (Read paragraph 5)

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I have been quiet for a few days now, exploring the nagging feelings about this blog, my Vlog site (The Beingness Project) and my Youtube channel. It is imperative to me that I am congruent with my inner self. That I Walk my Naked Truth in all ways; coming to this page with pure intention, presence and free of all agenda.

Why do I come to the page, first because writing is a part of who I am. The pen at the end of my hand and the flow of ink onto the page has been a part of me like the inhale and exhale of life. It gives me immense joy and infinite expansiveness to move into the flow of words.

The small voice from within knows the truth of our infinite essence…

I come to the page secondly, because I wish for all people to feel the awe, joy and love of BEING. To dance within the luscious space of fluid contentment, infinite peace and sensual joy. It is a space we intuitively know as a child. We eagerly explore, look with curious delight and express with abandoned wonderment. As the open child we feel everything that comes up, we let it flow, express, BE. Then this raw naked expression is squelched, judged and criticized. Taught to be controlled, denied and ignored.

To live from the joyful place of innocent curiosity, unafraid exploration and open love is to see glory in every horizon…

I recently perused some of my first blog entries from four years ago (read here), smiling in gratitude at the pictures of my children who were still shorter than I. What a marvelous journey we have shared, what glorious rich lessons life has graced us with. WOW! Life is a very dynamic colorful tapestry.

Today, most people have stopped reading this by now, for it is too long, takes too much time, interrupts the “To Do List” and does not “FIX” things. I sit still within my quiet fishbowl, looking out at the chaotic world around me. Everyone is DOING, going forth to conquer their life. Suppressing and denying themselves the grandest gift of all, to BE present. To truly EXPERIENCE the inexhaustible sensations and nuances of a vibrant engaged life.

To sit with oneself is to invite the calm knowing to surface, to wash away all worry, fear and hurt. To be Present in the Grace of Now….

So, why do I write? Why this blog? Why “The Beingness Project”? They are all an invitation to YOU, to come home to your Naked Truth, To BE. You do not need to Fix Yourself, for You are already Enough, Worthy and Perfect. All you have to do is remember how to BE present in ALL your moments. Then life begins to blossom in magnanomous grace.

This blog “Walking Naked Truth”, “The Beingness Project Vlog” and “Youtube channel“ exist to help you awaken and remember your joyful, vibrant, loving self. Each of us lost this natural state in our Domestication process, replacing genuine curiosity with judgmental distrust. Losing our sense of playfulness to proper ways of expression based on our societal, cultural and family Expectations.

To BE, is to let go, an invitation for your true essence to surface…

My recent struggle has been to stay TRUE to me. To BE Authentic and Congruent with my values, ethics and desires. There are many people I respect, admire and look to for inspiration, teaching, lessons, etc… However at this time in our world, what I experience is an excruciating bombardment of sh** in my email in box, my Facebook page and Instagram site. The introvert in me wants to UNPLUG it all, run away and hide. At the same time I love that I get to learn from those I admire with the ease of a Google search. So.., what is the balance?

Everyone I have thus far turned to for learning how to make a living from my expertise says I must:

  • post frequently (I like this one)
  • send consistent emails to my followers
  • push myself on social media so I gain more followers
  • push, push, push through this format or another!!
  • focus on using certain SEO words/triggers to be found

While I understand the need for such action (I did study business in college) and can see how it works (funnels, channel, spread), I cannot do it and feel good. My sharing is about BEing. My message is to BE. To re-discover that space within you that is already happy, peaceful, loving and excited about life. To help you remember how amazing you are just by BEing YOU. To reunite you with that infinite space of acceptance, grace and love.

Re-uniting with Your BEingness – awakens your spirit to the infinite possibilities…

After four days of deep inner exploration I have found my peaceful truth. I cannot bombard your email box, I will not nag you with ads. I AM HERE if you desire to journey with me. My gift to the world has always been to BE the safe loving place. Thus this page must reflect the essence of BEing, offering tools to help you on that journey back home to your inner magnificence.

I shall offer meditations, videos, worksheets and written exploration. You are free to Follow me or check in as you desire. Your free will gets to decide if you will engage to peel back the layers of your masks to joyfully reacquaint yourself with your natural state of BEingness.

It is my dream that all who seek shall come home to the unlimited jubilance of a life immersed in BEING. Absorbing its expansive loving peaceful contentment. It is a space that once fully remembered always beckons you back into its free flow.

A meditation to come home to you….

This blog and the other stuff I share is a delightful exploration of Surrender. To let go and trust that if it is meant to serve, it shall grow and become thanks to those who hear its message and resonate with its truth. A test to see if people are so numbed that they cannot notice or take action to spread a way of BEing. I am blessed to come to the page free of all Expectations, to share from a pure state of BEing, for only then will you experience how life is happening for you, inviting you to remember the joy of laughter, the fun of dancing, the inspiration of music, the love of self and others…

I thank you for joining me. I thank you for Being YOU. I thank you for all the ways you grace the world with your unique magnificence. I thank you for sharing. 

In Joyful Humble Gratitude, 
Fawn Caveney  
Beingness Guide 
Author/Writer
Speaker/Facilitator 
Life Artist and Dancer

What is “Beingness”

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Today I invite you to go to my labor of love, my purpose, my calling –

The Beingness Project…

There you will reacquaint yourself with your very essence. Re-Introducing yourself to your natural state of “BEING”.

Are you ready to Stop Fixing and Start Being?

Enjoy the Guided Meditation and Downloadable Worksheet you will find there.

In our Beingness there is an infinite space of peace, love and joy…

Deciding for Yourself…

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What an amazing week it has been to explore our Expectations. Now it is time to decide for yourself which Expectations serve you, creating more in your life and which ones burden you, limiting your growth and joy?

In truly listening, we can hear our truth…

Life is a constant journey of becoming. If we notice, breathe into our personal awareness and then choose for OURSELVES we start to travel down the path that is uniquely our own.

If we step in faith the path comes up to beckon us forward…

This means taking the time to unravel your Domestication, to stop Reacting and start Choosing for your own personal expansion. Embracing a path that empowers your desired emotional experience and learning that you ALONE have the power to live and manifest the life YOU desire.

You are Enough, You are Worthy, You are Perfect – Stop Fixing, Start Being…

Expectational Backlash…

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Why waste time exploring Expectations? Who cares? What does it matter?

I daily observe and witness the backlash of Expectations. Some are subtle, while others compound and intensify into something quite frustrating. As humans we tend to carry around the idea that people “get it”, of course they know what we want and how we want it, right!? Doesn’t everyone do it that way, want it that way? The truth – NO!!

Is quiet time alone an expectation you have in your life?

We are all unique, raised in different homes, impacted by our own special families, brought up in a culture and way of thinking and believing that is exclusively our own. Therefore our Domesticated Expectations are individualistic in addition to those that we have chosen personally for our way of being.

Notice today as you walk around, how does someone in your office prefer their desk? Is it neat or cluttered? How do you drink your coffee versus your friend? Do you make your bed, but your partner never makes the bed? Are you one of those people that has the personal Expectation to work out everyday? Do you Expect people to open the door for you? Etc..??

Do you expect people to know, understand, respect and honor your rituals, religious beliefs, spiritual ways of being, without communicating?

Tomorrow we will dig into our assumptions around Expectations – the powerful boomerang effect that can have some really negative impacts. To prepare for that, think about how you do or do not communicate your Expectations. Do you Expect your family to know what you want, how and when? Do you Expect your partner to know certain things that you have never communicated? At work, do you assume that your boss and colleagues know how you feel and what you like/want?

Sharing openly our Expectations can free us all…

Downloadable Worksheet

The Beingness Project – Vlog #4 – Expectations

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Stop Fixing – Start BEING

You are ENOUGH! You are WORTHY! You are PERFECT!

The Paradox of Expectations…

This is a HUGE week, for Expectations impact our daily lives way more than we realize. While they are not “bad” per se, they often have very powerful impacts due to their quiet relationship with assumption. During our Domestication process, we are taken from our innocent, open, non-judgmental babyhood, into our journey to become an adult. As we grow up we are bombarded from all angles with teachings and “ways to be”, that form our foundation of expectations.

 

  • We cannot expect others to be as we are…

Let’s do a simple comparison – a child born in China is raised culturally and societally very differently than a child born in the United States. Now let’s expand that difference even more, a child born in a small village in China versus a child born in New York City in the United States. If we then add on religion, school, and family, the layers of domesticated expectations are intensifying and expanding.

What gets harmful about expectations is the quiet dance it has with assumption. We assume that others know and understand our expectations, that we do not have to share them, or communicate what we expect. However, as I shared in the video, expectations can be subtle or prominent.

Some examples of prominent expectations are the societal, cultural and religious “rules”. Such as, you are expected to wear clothing in public, you drive on specific sides of the road, you eat with utensils or fingers in a distinct way depending on where you live in the world, you practice or take part in certain religious holidays or activities…. By now I think you get the idea, I could fill pages with the domesticated expectations we are groomed to live by.

The ones I want to explore this next week are the more subtle unspoken ones, for they directly impact our most important relationships. Again I must remind you that these expectations are taught and learned through our domesticated upbringing. The good news, we are at Choice to hang onto our expectations or change them. Even better news, if we learn to communicate our expectations we change everything, freeing ourselves and others from the burden of assumption.

Download the worksheet to begin the exploration into your Expectations. It’s going to be a powerful week!

Your Desired Emotions Move Your Life…

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On this final day of exploring “Our Emotions” before we move into Expectations, I wanted to offer and recap some of this last weeks offerings. I share the video from “The Beingness Project” Vlog as a reminder that all we have to do is BE. In the chaotic world of today we have grown detached from our inner truth, racing from one “To Do” thing to the next, barely breathing, as we march through life without knowing what we truly feel. The ironic twist of it all, is that we are ultimately driven by “What We WANT to FEEL”, so why do we run from that which we seek, a Domesticated Paradox.

Answer these questions from the heart:

  • Why are you working so hard?
  • What do you want to achieve? Why?
  • Why do you want a lot of money?
  • Why do you want to have nice things?
  • Once you have everything you “want” – what then?
  • Why do you seek love?
  • What does a nice home and possessions give you?
  • Why do you desire to travel?

If you really answer the above questions, you will discover that at the root of them ALL, is the desire to “FEEL” a certain emotion. Such as, freedom felt through financial abundance. Acceptance and a feeling of being chosen, when we are loved. Pride with a sensation of success when we achieve a certain status. Joy, connection, and curious wonder as we travel to new places and meet new people. Peace, contentment and an inner sense of feeling safe when we relax within the comforts of our own home. You get the idea…

Downloadable Worksheet

When we accept the truth that we are driven by the DESIRE to feel a certain way, we open up to the true power of our human spirit. If we first embrace the emotion we wish to experience, the rest will start to become. We must first feel joy within ourselves, to then truly experience it. Freedom is evoked from our own heart and soul, someone does not give you freedom. Peace does not reside outside ourselves, it comes from within. All that we seek exists inside us, once we Choose to own and BE in our desired emotions, our life experience begins to unfold for us.

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What you desire, is driven by how you want to feel…

It gets back to the simple practice of Noticing what you are feeling, Breathing deeply and Choosing what you desire to feel. Then BE it.

A Box of FEAR…

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A strange title for sure, however I hope it made you curious to read more, for I want to share a game that may help to change your life.

  • Have you ever wanted to do something, but fear got in your way?
  • Do you have a dream for the kind of life you want to live, but you’re too afraid to go for it?
  • When you look back on your life do you wish you had taken more chances? Have regrets?

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You either fuel the fire of fear or put it out…

Are you ready to stop letting FEAR rule your life? If so let’s undertake this project together. 

A Box of FEAR!!

  1. Find a box, or container of some sort that you can decorate with inspiration. If you prefer your container to be on the computer, then create a space where you can place words or phrases.
  2. Cut up some paper to write words, sentences or descriptions. If on the computer skip this step.
  3. Now think of one thing in your life that you have wanted to do or say, but FEAR has kept you stuck.
  4. As you think of this thing/sharing explore what you fear (See example below), identify the specific fear, write it down.
  5. Now, look at the specific fear you wrote down, really see it. Take a deep long breath, honoring that fear – then tell it in your own words, “You no longer control me”- place the fear in the container/box.
  6. As you place it in the box/container you are letting it go.
  7. In place of the fear choose a word that is empowering, often the opposite of the fear.
  8. Then CHOOSE one action step that you will take towards what you want to do/create/share.
  9. Write this action step down on a piece of paper or computer. Put it where you see it many times throughout the day.
  10. Take your action step!! (This does not have to be a big step, many little steps lead to the same destination)

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Fear can become a friend you welcome, for it lights up a path of growth and becoming..

Examples:

  1. I was terrified to send my first article off for publication to a magazine. As I looked at the fear it was based in “fear of rejection”. I gave “rejection” over to the Box of Fear and in its place I chose “Acceptance” with the action step of sending off the article. As a side note, it did get published :-).
  2. I was scared to go back to college full time in my forties as a single mom with two young children and no car. My base fear was “fear of failure”. I let go of this fear, placing it in the box. In its place I chose “Courage” and “I am ENOUGH”. My action step, enroll, apply for financial aid and start back full time. Find a job on campus and get good at riding my bike. I completed my Bachelors degree.  

Use this process to discover that you are brave enough, you are courageous, you are worthy, you can do it!!

Once you have built up your muscle of self-worth and self-love, you will no longer need “The Box of Fear”. Fear does not go away if you are living a dynamic passionate life, however it will have no control or limiting impact.

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Fear only has power if you decide to feed it…

Fear is the grand gift that can propel you into the direction of your heart’s desire.

Embracing Nothingness…

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I find there are days or periods of time when I feel detached, as though I observe the world from a distance. I observe the hustle and bustle, feel the chaos and sense immense anticipation. I identify this emotion for me as an almost vast nothingness. I am not sad or happy, frustrated or free, just in a suspended weightlessness. I embrace that all is in process and transforming.

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The grace of surrendered BEING opens up caverns of unknown possibilities…

Like all emotions, the sensation of “nothingness” shifts. If I allow myself to feel all the nuances and subtleties, I discover that it is actually a very fine space to BE. It unfolds for me the wisdom of patience, faith and surrender. Learning that I do not need to change it, force it to be something else, deny it, or stuff it away.

In the past I have even cancelled plans to cuddle up with this emotional sensation, for I know on the other side of it I will awaken to a sweeter depth of BEING. It is an opportunity to love that which is and thus allow life to become and unfold. So often we force change, demand instant gratification, running from the awkward discomfort of not knowing.

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To welcome the unknown is to open up the raw potential for more…

Today is one of those days for me. I take a nice long inhale, hold it, and smile softly as I gently exhale, for I know that much is happening for me that I cannot see. Some would call this blind faith, others I suppose would see it as stupidity. I see and feel it as surrendered trust, the ultimate faith that all is unfolding and becoming exactly as it is meant to BE.

Do you ever have moments of unknown, unidentifiable emotion? Have you allowed them to BE, or forced yourself into a new emotion?

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In forcing, we miss that which is trying to become for us…

Today, I invite you to celebrate and BE in whatever emotions you are graced to experience. Allow the flow to unfurl, swirl, and dance. I encourage you to welcome the feeling of “nothing”, for it can open up some of the most amazing Ah-Ha discoveries.

I hope to see you at The Beingness Project for more fun exploration, free worksheets, videos and…

 

Creating The Safe Place, Starts With YOU..

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This weeks exploration of “Being In Our Emotions” at The Beingness Project, delves into the truth that as humans we are emotional. What I hear and see is people denying their emotions, stuffing them away, pretending that all is “good” or “fine”, while underneath the surface diverse emotions are circulating.

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What lies within, surfaces- how this happens is your choice…

As we discussed last week in our Domestication exploration  we are taught to ignore our emotions, shut them away behind the exterior wall of our “everything is good” going through the motions existence. Thus we manifest a life of Reaction versus Choice.

I don’t know about you, but I can honestly say I prefer a life of Choice. A life where I honor and love who I AM in all my moments. In our crazy, chaotic world, this may require some attention, definitely awareness to YOUR Truth.

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Choice…Choosing to BE yourself or what others want you to be… Emotions are expressions of the unique self YOU are!

Today I challenge and invite you to BE! Explore how freeing it is to recognize your emotions as they show up. Notice how beautifully they flow, when allowed to be. As soon as you feel into them, you will experience them shifting, releasing their intensity to move you into what comes next. This genuine way of BEING YOU, will open you up to the grandeur of an expansive life. A life full of texture, grace, adventure, creativity, connection, and pure JOY in BEING.

The Simple Steps to Be in Your Emotions:

  1. Notice and welcome them.
  2. Breathe deeply into all the sensations.
  3. Feel the layers with gratitude, for even the “negative” emotions have powerful gifts.
  4. Thank them for the opportunity to experience BEING alive to feel!
  5. CHOOSE to release them, dig deeper, expand them, share them, etc…

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Freedom awaits in BEING – express and BE YOU…

Have FUN!! Celebrate all the dynamic emotions that BEING human blesses us with! Allow them to help you create a life of passion, love, joy, grace, wonder and….

 

Breathe Into Your Truth…

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Today I wish to chat about the most powerful force we have to change any given moment – BREATHING…. Yes, the simple physical process that keeps us alive can also transform.

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An inhale with intention, graces all in its gentle exhale…

Have you ever noticed how hard it is to breathe when you are angry? Or how at night your body actually relaxes as you take in slower, deeper breaths?

Have you ever taken the time to notice how the people around you breathe? It is an interesting game to play. Today while you are out and about with others, notice their breath. Is it deep and slow, shallow and fast? Is there a connection to how they are moving, what they are doing?

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Between the In Breath and Out Breath lies the truth of your contented peace…

It’s been my experience that people who are anxious, worried, angry, frustrated, etc.., breathe in shallow, choppy breaths. Their body’s are tight and their movements are rigid and hurried.

When I observe a person who seems at peace, happy, content, calm, etc.., I see deeper breaths with slower relaxed body movements.

Try this for yourself – as you go through your day, stop and breathe deeply and slowly. Hold the breath between the inhale and exhale for a few short seconds and then release very slowly. If you do this during a moment of frustration, you will experience the opportunity to shift, to let go, to release and choose to BE.

If you want to experience a short guided audio on this practice go to – The Beingness Project

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Breathe into your magnificence…