Today I want to play with fear, exploring how much power and energy we give it. Do you remember when you were young and the biggest thing you feared was the dark? Lying there you could create in your mind all kinds of creatures or things living in the closet, under the bed, outside your bedroom just waiting to get you!! Oh how your mind could build them up to be so real, so scary. Sleep was impossible, for the monster or mean people were just waiting for you to close your eyes!
Later as you “grew up”, there would still be those moments where you were certain someone or something was in the house. The more you tried not to think about it, the more it ate away at your mind, becoming larger than life. Bravely you would turn on the lights, look in every closet, under every bed, check all the locks.., whew, no one, nothing, all was safe and good.
This is the nice simple fear, the monster in the closet. What about the fears that do not hide in the closet or under the bed? The ones that you carry around in your mind, heart, and soul every day? Those looming ones about never having enough, that no one will ever really love you, that your partner might cheat on you, people might learn your secrets, the debt will never go away, blah..blah..blah….
Let’s pretend that you have a fear backpack, in this green canvas sturdy bag, you daily load up your fears. How many will there be in the backpack today? Make a list – money, relationship, job, home…. Don’t forget the deeper ones, “I’m not attractive enough, people don’t really like me, I’m not successful, I’m getting older which makes me undesirable, what if I get cancer, could I lose my job…” You get the idea. Well, how full is your bag? Can you lift it? Does it weigh you down, become a burden?
I am not sure who came up with the wonderful quote around fear – false evidence appearing real, but I like it!! Think about it! Your whole being reacts when you get into a fearful state. The physical body, the emotional and mental parts of our being become transfixed – the focus builds and builds. Here is an interesting tidbit to look at, we are even fearful of things that we want – ha…think about that one. We crave and desire love, yet, we are afraid to really receive it. We really want to be liked, but, what if when they get to know us, they don’t like us? We dream of great success, yet, what if make it, can we handle it? Oh my, what is one to do? Fear circles everything – that which we don’t want and do want!
So, I often ponder – why do we give fear so much power? Why do we choose to focus on that which we don’t want to happen versus believing and focusing upon that which we do want? I know that every time I turned on the light to see if the monster was there, it wasn’t. I know from personal experience that even when I lost a job, I was still okay. I experienced that losing a relationship, being cheated on, having no money, facing uncertainty, none of it killed me, or ended the world. What I have learned is that focusing upon fear, takes away from all the joy and love I can be enjoying and embracing.
That old line which says, “that which you focus upon becomes more” – well it has truth. How big did the monster in the closet and under the bed become as your child mind thought about? How worked up did you get worrying and building up fear about your finances? As you focus upon it, does the fearful issue become smaller or overwhelming? What if, the truth that fear was false evidence appearing real could be embraced, could you then unload your backpack to freely skip with joy? I don’t know about you, but I have found that the sensation I experience around fear is not very fun, it grows like mold, spreading quickly. I prefer to look at the truth I see, honor the reality and then focus upon that which I wish to create, experience and engage in. When I shift and release fear, my whole being relaxes, my mind and heart open up, and there is space for happiness and love. As always, we are at choice.
May today be full of that which fills you up with joy, love, excitement and peace! A.C.T. (always choose truth) today with no fear and see what unfolds….